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My h has moved out of the house. He claims he doesn't love me. He was over last night, breifly, the see our daughter. We are in the process of separtion proceedings. I asked him point blank, why he wants this. He said that he is doing this for me, that I deserve a chance at happiness. What??? You are leaving because of me? I don't understand. I love him so much, mistakes and all. How do I get this man to understand that I want him to come home. I don't want a divorce. Every time we are together, it seems like he is pulling further and further away from me. I don't know it OW is still in the pic. I do know that she is trying to put her marriage back together, so it is possible it is over. I am trying to be patient with him, but I am so frustrated that I don't know what to say or do. Any suggestions?
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Sounds like he's trying to justify what he is doing by saying he is making you unhappy.<P>Stop the lovebusters.Let him know you still want to be married to him.<P>It's a good possibility she is still in the picture. Even if it's just conversation, it'll be very difficult for him to find his way back to you.<P>------------------<BR>Prayers & God Bless!<BR>Chris<BR>For relationship info check out <A HREF="http://www.pcisys.net/~chriscal1/resources.html" TARGET=_blank>www.pcisys.net/~chriscal1/resources.html</A>
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ceecee,<P>Be consistant and loving. If he says that he's separating for you; you should gently let him know that this isn't what you want. You should let him know that you're willing to work on the marriage. <P>But don't beg, plead, or grovel. Patience is key. You're not going to be able to stop his actions and behaviors at this point; all you can do is to react in a way that demonstrates love and care for him.
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