We argue every day about everything.
This needs to stop. As you can see, it is not helping the situation.
I know I am part of the problem. I am as stubborn as a mule but I have to say I do try.
Trying is not doing.
My husband and I are complete opposites. We don’t see eye to eye in anything.I thought this would be a good thing.
Opposites attract. And it is a good thing if you stop fighting and learn how to negotiate.
I think we should open a college savings fund for our daughter he thinks that can wait. I think we should save for a house because the apartment we live in is so small it drives me crazy. He thinks that can wait.
Are you paying attention to what he wants? In order to be respected, one has to SHOW respect.
These are only some of the problems. He is extremely jealous. When I go out he calls me constantly. He needs to know where I am and who I am with at all times. He checks my phone and my e-mails. We argue about this all the time.
What is there to argue about? If you know he is jealous, then why would you go out without him and why wouldn't you gladly show him your calls? He has a RIGHT to know where you are and who you are with, he is your husband. To withhold your whereabouts with someone you call "jealous" is MEAN. Why wouldn't you try to do things to LESSEN his discomfort instead of purposely aggravating him?
That’s another thing it would be fine if we just raised our voices when we argued but we don’t. We don’t argue in a healthy way.
Arguing is not healthy.
As you can see...We both have really bad tempers. When we argue it’s like hitting your head against a brick wall. Nothing goes through. The only thing that happens is plates fly and chairs break.
Wow, I missed the part where you get VIOLENT. All bets are off with this. That is a dangerous environment for your DD. Maybe you should separate until you can get some serious psychological help for your anger. Can you move in with your parents so your DD will have a responsible adult to take care of her?