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Stella Don't know what got edited but love the idea that was left. 
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Your post is the first thing that made me laugh in the last few days. Thanks.
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oh Lord, don't encourage her!! 
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Pay attention to what mel is telling you.
I think you show extreme maturity and grace by not melting down and over reacting. You seem to understand what is really at stake here.
Not only your marraige but your way of life.
Get a week or so worth of backup email before you confront your wife. Do not tell her at this point that you have proof, or the key logger-- you may get to use this as a checkup.
Try not to LB. But state your discovery, your feelings about it and your reasons for still wanting the M with your W.
See what she is willing to comp to. (you may hide something away- to see if she is telling all.) But don't hold your breath, WS usually don't tell the truth at once. Against thier code.
Oh, Yeah...
You need to use protection.
Me; W 46
Him; H 46
2 girls
DD19
DD16
Dated/Married total 28 years.
..I am learning and working on myself.
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I'd also get a time frame for how long your wife is has been leading a "double life" when you do decide to confront. If she's been doing this since before you were married, there may be other things involved.
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AND... if she does discover that you snooped and cries that you violated her privacy... just explain to her that privacy is going to the bathroom alone and shutting the door to do your business whereas "secrecy" is hiding something that she shouldn't be doing.
Widowed 11/10/12 after 35 years of marriage
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In a sense now, I am homeless. For the home, the place of refuge, solitude, love-where my husband lived-no longer exists. Joyce Carolyn Oates, A Widow's Story
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Can you get a screen shot of one of her "performances" and show it to her, when you're ready to confront? She would, of course, want to know how you got it...and all you would have to say is, "How I got it is not important. Is this you?" Even my inventive mind and facile tongue would find it difficult to come up with a way to explain myself out of THAT!
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Mrs L67 is performing over the internet? Seems to me that she should have a lot more to worry about than how L67 knows about it... She has put herself out there for the whole world to see. Nothing done over the internet is “private”.
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