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#2216514 02/19/09 08:10 AM
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Please please give me some advice.
I am new here and posted my story only a few days ago. My husband and i live together but he has told me he has no feelings for me and when our daughter is 18 (she is 15 now ) he wants to seperate and sell the house.

I have been doing plan A since january and giving him compliments too which are definately his no 1 love language. and we were getting on ok, he even seemed to be a bit warmer towards me that is until last night

I went out to the local shop and i met a man that works in the local pub that my H goes to and he asked me if my H was looking forward to going on his lads only holiday to spain and i told him i didnt know anything about it, he got a bit embarrased.

He said there are 16 lads all golfers going to spain in april for 4 days and my H was going with them and was fully paid up. Husband did mention in Nov that the local golf society were going to spain and that he was thinking of joining them and i got really mad and told him if he went then he had better see a solicitor, that i couldnt put up with him going off for a few days to spain with a bunch of men, and he told me tough he would go if he wanted too.

H doesnt play golf but has recently been getting private lessons. I feel sick to my stomach that he is doing this, i have big trust issues with him and when he came home last night i confronted him and he said yes he was going, and i asked him why he hadnt said anything and he said he did tell me in nov and i told him i wasnt happy about it and he said he didnt care. My question is HOW DO I HANDLE THIS? am i being unreasonable? I think the trust issues stem from his affair, but its also the fact that he doesnt seem to care how i feel anymore. I feel so helpless! PLEASE PLEASE HELP



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It would really help if you'd stick to one thread. Having your story scattered around makes it difficult to keep up with your situation vs. the others on here.

I'll address your questions in your original thread shortly.


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