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Last time I was in this forum, I was beat up on pretty bad, called a liar, accused of not being forthright. Well here I am again completing a 360.
Wife recently took a job in retail, some questionable shifts with scheduled time off exceeding an hour past due time (we live 2 minutes away from the store). Milage has been off on the car (sometime alot somtimes not). WW is an excellant debater (never win an argument). Lots of red flags, but no evidence.
Been on cruise control for approximately 6 months not discussing the issues after confrontation last year.
Discovered her eval for the last 90 days and to my surprise it reflected some marginal performance of her duties (contrary to her report, "they love her to death and she is doing an awesome job"). She is 45 y/o. On the last page of the evaluation it reflected that she had three late days and one absence!
I cannot recall anytime that she had called in.
Any thoughts or suggestions?
Last edited by Sympatico; 02/19/09 10:25 PM.
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Joined: Apr 2001
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What exactly is the problem?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Joined: Jan 2009
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Go with your gut. Put a voice activated recorder in her car and a GPS. You will know where she goes and you will be able to catch her there eventually.
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Your last post from over a year ago... Thanks for the replies. You both are correct MIM - I have told her no more cross examining DS and Yes I am going through with the polygraph.
Trix, I am reporting what had transpired not saying that I believe it or not. At this point her creditability is almost zero.
Last night after I got home, she immediately came to me and said "I know how your mind works and you are thinking that me cancelling the appointmen is a sign of guilt". Teary eyed - she state that she would take myu appointment scheduled for 1/09/07.
I was in the process of grabbing some coat hangers to do some ironing when her other GF called (she is watching her DD), she made the comment to me "I'll try not to get to close to her husband". Well the chit hit the fan and I am so sorry, but I LB all over the place!! I was packing to leave when she got in the vehicle to leave thereby preventing me from leaving.
She then returned and stated that she could not afford the house payments or sending the kids to parochial school so she would therefore move out, get a job and get her own apartment. I stated that that would be a good idea. She ask me if I wanted her to sleep downstairs and I told her yes.
About an hour later, I went downstairs and told her MB recommended that H/W not sleep apart even when arguing. She could return to the room but it was her decision.
She did come back up to the room.
So here is where I am.... From what I can tell, this is your last post from over a year ago. What has been happening during this time? Are you and your (F)WW working on the marriage, utilizing the MB concepts? If so how?
Me46
FWH42
Married 19 yrs
EA 4/07 - 4/08
(Confirmed by polygraph that it had not gone PA)
Dday1 4/13/08
Dday2 8/8/08
S26
S16
D10
Trying to Recover
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