Re: 2nd mortgage (home equity loan) -- did lawyer discuss what it was used for? I mean -- was it used for community benefit purposes? My WH used ours for other things like taking OW to Vegas or shopping. So I want to make sure those types of expenses are taken out. And my WH maxed out the amount which makes our home worthless.
We didn't get into what it was used for too much. I think if you were Divorcing and you presented to the lawyer that WH used 90% of it you could possibly use that as leverage in your Divorce Papers. Are you planning on staying in the house or moving? Sorry, I don't your story -- I am definitely a newbie when it comes to finding out about what goes on in a divorce. BUT I am thinking that your lawyer could take your above story into account and work that to your benefit.
For instance, even though the Child Custody support formula would have WH paying me less in CS than he is paying me now, my lawyer said he could write it into the separation agreement for WH to continue paying me what he has been paying for the last 4 years.....
Melody - Thanks for your note! I really am ready for some normalcy.
The lawyer made that statement (chewing him up and spitting him out) because he was just painting a picture for me IF this ended up going to court. He doesn't feel like it will (and I don't either....WH is just not one to fight for anything, except for getting a woman in bed) But I told him about WH's two affairs, how he came home and lied about his past relationship, tricked me into a mortgage and car payment and then got OW pregnant while he was living at home and supposedly reconciling his M.
Judges and juries where I live just don't take kindly to that kind of behavior. And I think I would be so darn likeable that WH would be sorry to even take things to that level.
I did tell my lawyer about OW being a lawyer. He asked her name and I told him. He knows the name and had worked on a case a while back with her brother (also a lawyer). He seemed a bit taken aback by all of that info, surprised. But said that was neither "here nor there" and that it wasn't about her, it was about WH.
I DO KNOW that if WH decides to fight this that I WILL drag OW up to the stand.
Kim