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You stated previously that home conditions are getting cleaner and cleaner. I'm just checking that the home living standard is not going down.
But I, being poor, have only my dreams; I have spread my dreams under your feet; Tread softly because you tread on my dreams -Yeats
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You stated previously that home conditions are getting cleaner and cleaner. I'm just checking that the home living standard is not going down. Ohh, well, yeah it's not perfect, but I'm keeping the house clean. My weekends are usually my clean up time. Work has been major stressful the last couple of weeks and I haven't been doing the house like I should. I'm going to do some serious cleaning up tomorrow though. I'm starting to get behind and I hate it!
D-Day 9/28/08 Married for 7 years
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Figured I'd update my situation somewhat.
W still lives with her best girl friend in that dumpy house. I finally learned to stop chasing her about a month or so ago. Then, I noticed, she started indirectly wanting to spend more time with me. She started asking me to do things with her like lunch or some exercise. Sometimes I would go to lunch, and sometimes I would decline. Long story short, I was laid off a couple of weeks ago and W got really stressed about it. I should've had the D papers a couple of weeks ago, but for some reason she keeps telling me the attorney hasn't given them to her yet. I think she's delaying the process if I had to guess. Maybe for financial reasons, maybe for other reasons, I'm unsure. Anyways, I don't talk to her much, sometimes she comes by on the weekends. If she calls, I keep the conversations brief and to the point. I haven't said 'I love you' in a while and don't have any plans to say that to her ever again. Again, I thank you all for the great advice in keeping my head up.
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D-Day 9/28/08 Married for 7 years
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How does your being laid off affect her decision to divorce you?
But I, being poor, have only my dreams; I have spread my dreams under your feet; Tread softly because you tread on my dreams -Yeats
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How does your being laid off affect her decision to divorce you? Because she agreed to take on a lot of the debt she racked up in the agreement. Now that times are tough, I think she may be afraid of losing her job as well. Hopefully it's not an issue. I really would just like the closure at this point. I'm ready to move on with my life as well.
D-Day 9/28/08 Married for 7 years
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What are the chances that you will get a new job soon?
But I, being poor, have only my dreams; I have spread my dreams under your feet; Tread softly because you tread on my dreams -Yeats
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What are the chances that you will get a new job soon? Busting my bottom to get a new one now. I've got some irons in the fire. I'm not the kinda guy who likes to sit at home and be bored, so I've been pretty hard at it trying to get a new career. I'll update when I know more. On another note I've been trying to keep myself busy. Finally recovering and haven't chased her in at least 2 months. I don't plan to go back to the old Blitz that chased his stbxw. If the opportunity presents itself for reconciliation, I will have a difficult choice to make, but I'll think long on it. Thanks for the follow up imagine, I'll keep you posted.
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