Fireproof the Movie

Say "I do" all over again.

About FIREPROOF

At work, inside burning buildings, Capt. Caleb Holt lives by the old firefighter's adage: Never leave your partner behind. At home, in the cooling embers of his marriage, he lives by his own rules.

Growing up, Catherine Holt always dreamed of marrying a loving, brave firefighter...just like her daddy. Now, after seven years of marriage, Catherine wonders when she stopped being "good enough" for her husband.

Regular arguments over jobs, finances, housework, and outside interests have readied them both to move on to something with more sparks.

As the couple prepares to enter divorce proceedings, Caleb's father challenges his son to commit to a 40-day experiment: "The Love Dare." Wondering if it's even worth the effort, Caleb agrees-for his father's sake more than for his marriage. When Caleb discovers the book's daily challenges are tied into his parents' newfound faith, his already limited interest is further dampened.

While trying to stay true to his promise, Caleb becomes frustrated time and again. He finally asks his father, "How am I supposed to show love to somebody who constantly rejects me?"

When his father explains that this is the love Christ shows to us, Caleb makes a life-changing commitment to love God. Andówith God's helpóhe begins to understand what it means to truly love his wife.

But is it too late to fireproof his marriage? His job is to rescue others. Now Caleb Holt is ready to face his toughest job ever...rescuing his wife's heart.

Fireproof My Marriage

My WH wanted to watch this film with me. He is not a Christian although we were married in the Lutheran church and Baptised both of our children.

He believes that God cannot exist and let him live the way he does...

I pray and go to church with our children whilst my WH busies himself with parasites which have taken him away from God, me and our family.

On Sunday we started to watch the film after it was recommended to him. About 20 minutes in it focussed on saving the marriage and using God as the foundation. He turned it off.

Yesterday, Tuesday, he asked me if we could finish watching it together. He wanted to know what you could do in 40 days to make a difference in saving a marriage that was lost long ago. I said that sounds nice, but didn't push.

He came over for his scheduled visit with the kids last night and after putting them to bed, he asked me if he could put it on.

We watched it together and it is literally a step-by-step guide to plan A. It is not until day 16 that the focus includes God. WH did not make one comment throughout the film. There were no snide remarks about God, prayer or The Love Dare (40 day plan).

He is so against Christianity and yet he watched the whole film in silence. I caught him looking across at me a few times but I was too busy crying to really notice or return the look. The movie goes straight to the heart of marriage breakdown and how we can't really love our partner if we don't know how to forgive and love unconditionally as God has shown us.

This movie is excellent and if you haven't seen it, it's for you too. You can buy "The Love Dare" from Christian bookstores and there are stories on the website of full recoveries in marriages that had gone to and beyond divorce.

I have no expectations from watching the film, but I thank God that he introduced my WH to the film and gave him the desire to want to know more.

I want to buy the book and the dvd so that I can give it to other people. The lessons are wonderful.

If you really want to see the 40 Day Love Dare in action, get the book and do it yourself.

Yes, it is a lot like Plan A.

Mark

Hi 2M2L and Mark,

Glad you started this thread and are broaching the comparison of Plan A and the 40 Day Love Dare. Mark's thread about showing the movie to the unchurched (at his church) had some interesting insights.

To be honest, I haven't read your story yet, TMTL, but I saw the movie with my FWH in the theater last fall. Knowing that the actors (including Kirk Cameron who played "Caleb") were volunteers made it easier to look past the sub par acting performances. (Kirk had to be compensated per union regs I think, but I know he gave his stipend to his Terminally Ill Kid's foundation.)

I see how it's similar, but I'm curious about how the 40 Day Love Dare might be different from Plan A. I have some ideas, but if you don't mind my asking, I'm wondering how others who have seen the movie from a Christian perspective compare the two.

Thanks,
Ace