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So I posted last week that my WH was having affairs again. We are divorcing and he even signed all my requests in the divorce and I was heading to the attorney Monday afternoon. I have a facebook page and I posted that I was starting my new single life this week & a couple of days passed and one of my WH cousin's sent me a message that she hoped things work out better next time. No big deal right? I am fixing to be single so I can say that. Well yesterday I got a voicemail from him that said "[censored] you have about 30 seconds to answer the phone or you're gonna have hell to pay" I called back a bit later & he was ranting and raving about how I emailed all his cousins and that they were calling his grandparents. He was acting nuts! I hung up. Later he sends me a text message saying my front door was gone and he was suing me for defamation of character. I arrived at my home and he was sitting in my driveway and my front door was still in tact. He comes in the house and gets a bag of clothes and a gun and leaves but not before he says the deal is off he wants half of everything. Then I get more texts from him of how his family hates me and I was dragging his name in the mud.
I just responded that what he or his family felt about me was not my concern anymore and I was moving on with my life & I wasn't stooping to this level. To which he responds "you have stooped lower than I ever could" So I guess him having numerous affairs on his wife, bringing them into our home isn't as low as it gets?
I just want him to go away! I have no love for him anymore after yesterday. I don't know if he is nuts or just mad because divorce is a reality now. i don't know. Does anybody have any similar situations? This has gone too far & I'm sick of him trying to scare me. I have an appt. Monday with my attorney. In the meantime I have to be responsible for all the household bills by myself that he has half created. I'm also intimidated of the legal process and how all of it works. I feel like he is going to make this so much uglier than it has to be. I just want him gone as fast as possible! Any advice?
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Sounds like his momentary lack of selfishness (in the requests you mentioned) got "fixed."
This happens. It's normal for a wayward to be so selfish.
One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger
I will not spend my life this way.
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