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How did you find out? The lying WW? Yeah you can take whatever she say's to the bank.
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Well saw my lawyer yesterday..Told him that I still do not want this...But it will probably do no good..He says to stay where I am and not to move..And since I work out of my home, I cannot be froced to leave..Even got a letter from employer stateing that..She is still at her parents with the kids..I get them back today for the next 3 days..I dont feel as stressed out with her not being around..Walking on egg shelld the last couple of months, have put a drain on my brain..
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Have you any solid evidence that WW is adulterous.
Plan A is first expose WW. Hopefully at work. Then meet EN's.
Divorce is what establishes a solid Plan B. Recovery has taken place after divorce. Make sure that she feels welcome now.
But I, being poor, have only my dreams; I have spread my dreams under your feet; Tread softly because you tread on my dreams -Yeats
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I still do not have concrete proof of the A....She still shows a ton of hatred at me, which I am good at shrugging off..She was mad at me yesterday, because she claims I did not tell her that I was picking the kids up after school from daycare...Heard her mumble under her breath that she was annoyed at it..Like I care if shes annoyed right now...There is diffently a EA for sure, but most people I have tlaked about it, don't know or reconognze what a EA is..
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I was having a better time the last couple of days of detaching from what we "had'..But last nite I kept having dreams of all the good times the past couple of years...And now I am in a bit of a downer mood..And had dreams of her with other people as well...Up's and downs' for awhile I suppose...I wouldnt force what we all have been going thourgh on my worst emenmy...
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Can you speak to OM and find his intentions. Notify him that you are going through a difficult time in your marriage and would appreciate him to beat it.
But I, being poor, have only my dreams; I have spread my dreams under your feet; Tread softly because you tread on my dreams -Yeats
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he's just going to tell me theres nothing going on..They are just "friends speech"..You know how they all talk...I got my first proposal from her lawyer...I knew the kids are going to be the fighting ponit...Every other weekend my a#$!! Ive been there since day one..and now all I am going to be is a glorified babysitter..Not happy on that one!
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he's just going to tell me theres nothing going on..They are just "friends speech"..You know how they all talk...I got my first proposal from her lawyer...I knew the kids are going to be the fighting ponit...Every other weekend my a#$!! Ive been there since day one..and now all I am going to be is a glorified babysitter..Not happy on that one! I think that you have to be a bit more insistent when you speak to OM. Make him think that you have line of surveillance.
But I, being poor, have only my dreams; I have spread my dreams under your feet; Tread softly because you tread on my dreams -Yeats
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This may sound really odd for this board, and against what I am trying to do..But if my bit%$ wife wants to throm it all away on some piece of a$$..Then all the power to her..I feel like crap, after she says its "not about money' BS...And then she pulls this child support crap on me...My mind is in a bad spot as I type...Im mad at everything right now..Except my kids...Sorry
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Well she came back today..Her parents are back, so I guess she lost the place to live...I really didnt want to see her for a long time..My heart really hurts...And she shows no remorse or emotion to what she has done..That probably hurts the most..These "fog" people sure are different..I want to go to the darkest plan B that anyone can...Want them all back, but not like it is today.
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Hang in there. I am in a similar situation. I am about to have a face to face discussion with the OM messing with my wife in an EA. Who knows, I am doing surveillence right now. I hope that I caught this before it became physical, but I may already be too late. I still want my wife back, but we have a long way to go right now.
Remember that you are a good father and a good person. Do not let her absurd behavior dictate your life. This has been a struggle for me, as well. Be strong for your kids. I am with you man.
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We just told our kids whats going on...Wife wasnt too happy that I didnt take the blame for it..I told the kids this is what SHE wanted, not me..That pissed her off!!..Now shes mad at me that i told them that..Who cares..I told them the truth..I guess the turth hurts..
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Just a side note on the Plan A..It has not been going very well..Its tough to try and show feelings to somebody that shows hatred and no il-will to the stich she has created...I think for any chance..WE both need a plan B..Dark as night..To get me at least in a better frame of mind..I keep worrying too much, with what she is doing and where she is going or doing it with..The PI would cost me over $500..And when she moves out, I am going to be hard pressed to keep my head above water with the cash, unless I can sucure a seperate morgage on the house...I really hate where we are all right now...I guess a plan B, dark, will put her head back in the right place..I know, Dreamer!!
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Sat down and told the kids..She wasnt happy when I told them its not what I wanted, its what SHE wanted..Thought I was immature about it..I was just telling them the turth..And know I find out, she doesnt have a place to go, the apartment she wanted, she never got..Oh well..I also asked again about the OM..Still denies it...All in a FOG baby!!
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Now she says its MY fault she never found a place to live..Because I wouldnt pick up the kids...I only did that once..Now it was ALL the time..Keeps getting funnier and funnier..it was WAY less stessfull when she wasnt here all the time..
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Southbend, I know that it is tough. I am having a rough day, too. Maybe a PI would be worth it if you can prove the affair is the deal breaker in the marriage. This may help you in court or it may snap her back to reality.
I am lookin forward to confonting the OM who is trying to mess up my family. I may be shocked to hear some things that I don't want to hear, but I want to try my best right now to do this plan A thing right. It is very difficult.
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I am so looking forward to getting the proof, if I can..It's been a tough day here as well..I still told her the divroice is HER idea, I am so waiting for , hopefully, karma bute her in her A$$..
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Her cell phone just rang..And she whent right to our bedroom and shut the door..BUT..Thats exactly where I hid the Voice activated recorder!! I am pumped to find out what was said!!
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Well that voice recorder gave me no ammo..But when she was on the computer with me down here..I asked her if she talked to him today..And she said no..Then I asked to see her cell phone, and she told me it was none of my buisness...I told her maybe I should just call the OM instead..The reaction I got, kind of proves something is going on...Then she threatned to get me out of the house.."technically" we are leagally sepeated. Living in the same house..Whatever..
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Southbend I was were you are now about 10 months ago doing the same thing now Iam divored moved out of the house and dating and so is she but guy let me save you alot of time . Listen real good here SHE IS NO GOOD TO YOU NO MORE did you here me it will be months before she even thinks about coming out of that Fog . Southbend go to the gym donot even try to talk to her go dark but you know after I thought about this and cryed about it time and time again I said to my self she can KISS MY A## . I have been dating on line and the women that you are going to meet are great and brtter people then that monster that you live with now . Get out now save your self alot of time man SHE IS NO GOOD TO YOU NOW ........................
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