My thought is he is projecting on you...he is the frivolous one, so OBVIOUSLY, YOU must be as well!

Frivalous conduct is a CIVIL claim, and usually without a tremendous ammount of evidence/proof gets thrown out.

In Divorce court, it is used to muddy waters I guess.

If you have kept honest, I do not believe you have anything to worry about.

--sheesh.

Wait....Chai is being frivolous because she has a male living with her.

Chai, I've met you. If you are anything like the woman I met that weekend, you are ok. You're not being frivolous. Meanwhile, be sure you ask for wh to be granted the opportunity to pay all your legal fees - and you accountant fees.

Meanwhile, I'll try to get him signed up for those 'total body tweezing' treatments carried out by large, hulking, dirty, man-hating women.

I'd like to do it myself with dull tweezers.

OK, so the hearing is next week. So far I've been charged with cruelty, gross neglect, and frivolous conduct. I must have done all of those things when he was in another city living with OP and pretending to be divorced. Imagine that. And he still had time to notice that I was doing all of those things.

My task for the next week is preparing for 2008 taxes and the audit coming up.

Chaibaby is growing like a weed. Talk about gas? Wow. He can clear a room in nothing flat. I think a formula change might be in order.

DD seems to be doing well. The true test is AFTER rehab though....

{{{{{{{{{{{{CHAI}}}}}}}}}}} I love you girl.

What a woman of strength and attitude you are... I still think you should become a stand up comedian.. You are GOOD....

Chai,


You are F'ING KIDDING me??!!!

Well, apparently the adage that the Best Defense is a Good Offense is his strategy?! Lordy Lordy, you'd think that by now I'd not be so surprised at what a wayward is capable of!

Yep, Ms. Frivolous. How DARE you keep a business running on nothing. How DARE you try to help your daughter out of her addiction! How DARE you care for your grandson in a loving environment while his mom works to straighten out her life? How DARE you stand for what is right & good in the world?

How DARE you conduct yourself with Class, Grace, and Dignity?!

How DARE you do all of this,,,which just causes that hot bright spotlight to shine on the fact that WS is the Complete & Total Opposite????

I was just telling a friend the other day how much 'fun' it was to have lived through being to Blame for Everything Wrong in Drac's world! Just another page outta the WS handbook, isn't it?

Hang in there lady! You will prevail, have no doubt!

Hi CL,


CL, I don't know how you do it girl!

Keep breathing DEEPLY... this too shall pass...ALL OF IT!

Chai

You are a magnificent woman.

That idgit poo-poo headed man doesn't know diddly or squat about being honorable. I hope the judge laughs at him. Laughs out loud and has to recess court till s/he gets back under control.

You're amazing, Chai.

I hope the judge is so outraged that he orders the baliff to have your WH beaten.

No, I wish I was Bugs. Now are you ready for this????

I picked up the documents that WH finally submitted. A huge packet, so wasn't sure what I would find. Most of it was financial statements (cc bills, checking etc), but of course he submitted them all for the year AFTER I found out about Miss Mullet. Can you say 'trying to pull a fast one?' Yep, didn't submit them for the year of THE activity.

Secondly, he submitted checking statements for 2002 and circled all of my direct deposits from my corporate job. OK, and his point is?

Finally, he printed and submitted all of the Jennifer emails that I had written. I was a little shocked, because I'm not sure what he is trying to prove. The emails actually incriminate him more than anything else. They are littered with MB verbiage on me wanting to work on the marriage, we can find a new path, blah blah blah but YOU MUST GET RID OF MISS MULLET.

Any thoughts out there? I feel betrayed all over again because I felt that those were private. Am I missing something here? Is he just trying to hurt me?

I'm baffled.

Chaibaby spending the night with other GPs. I get to sleep!!!! I need to be alert for court tomorrow. WH's motion for continuance was denied. Not sure if that is good or bad for me.

Hi there Chai, special woman of powerful strength.....

Hurt people hurt people.

He is as wayward as they come. But remember they really don't think much about US, they only think of themselves and what's best for them.

He's a schmuck, plain and simple....

How can we explain, stoopid, selfish and crazy....

Prayers going....up


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Prayers going up for you.

In his effort to shoot you in the @$$ he's going to end up shooting himself in the foot.

You, my dear, are prepared.

I agree with karmarose-

WH is an idg-it.

He is so fogged over with self-entitlement he can't see that he is making a donkey's hind quarters of himself.

Oh well

Think of Yoda in your trials, Chai (johnstwin's siggy reminded me of something).

As little as he is, he is heralded as a great warrior.

I liken this to you. You have such odds against you, but still you fight as Yoda did.

[tj]
Note: I am so nerdy over Star Wars that one day with measuring tape, I pulled it up to 2' and went 'WOW he's only THAT TALL' and 'I'll never called him a hairy green bean again.'
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Hi CL,

I am glad you are getting a chance to rest.


...that's just it, CL...he's not trying ANYTHING...because he can't think right now, period! WS's...because LIFE is not how they envisioned it to be....are miserable and get usually very frustrated and lash out and blame whoever they can! Guess who's the most obvious target?


...will be thinking of you and praying for you.

Remember to BREATHE deeply whenever you can... it really is the simplest and most effective thing you can do when faced with a WS behaviour!

CL

I had a chance to talk to Chai briefly this evening. I won't tell everything she said....but.....stupid idgit doofus of poswh's attorney was reprimanded by judge for some of his stunts which blindsided Chai and her attorney. So, they have been continued over for 90 days. The judge seemed quite displeased w/ antics of poswh et al. He seemed sympathetic to our sweet, precious, honorable friend.

But he didn't order the baliff to have WH beaten? I'm a little disappointed. But glad the judge saw who is in the right and who isn't.

Hey Cinder, thanks for updating. I had to go pick up chaibaby, so not much time to recap.

We did not get beyond the two attys going to the judge's chamber.

Bottom line, WH claims he did not want me to start my business, that he wanted nothing to do with it, and that I forged his name on the loan docs 3.5 years ago which I did not. WH says he couldn't have signed because he wasn't in town. Nice try. Before Miss Mullet was in the picture he was in town almost every weekend. Also, my atty is having me call in witnesses who have heard him say he took his job to allow me to open my business and that he was glad that I could realize my dream. So far I have 4 people who are willing to testify. I even called the sales guy who sold us the car. He remembers WH talking about how he was going to help me do the trade shows etc.

Amazing. He is just outright lying. He was my biggest cheerleader when I started the business.

WH submitted a fraction of what we asked for, so the judge threw out the frivolous conduct claim against me since I submitted everything that they requested.

So judge says 90 days and we will wind this up. I guess that means he will rule on everything then and hopefully it will be over. In the meantime, if I need to pay bills, judge will give me a court order to cash in 401K money. Not sure why I should have to do that to pay my bills though. I'm still not clear on that whole thing.

I walked by WH in the hallway and he closed his eyes so he wouldn't have to see me. How childish is that? I almost feel sorry for him. Almost. He has had so many opportunities to make this right and chooses not to do so.

I guess I will be D'd in May. Not what I wanted, but I'm beginning to see that it may be the best thing for me under the circumstances. I think WH has lost it.

Obviously your WH thought he would be like Pariah's XW with the judge. :crosseyedcrazy:

No such chance! I prayed so hard for you, and...wow, it's just wonderful to see what a few minutes of prayer can do for someone else.