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Re: Expose continued dishonesty
pomdbd3 #2223836 03/03/09 02:48 PM
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Originally Posted by pomdbd3
I really question if you're the father of this child. The timing is very bad.
Unfortunatly, I agree.

I hope that you are, I hope you can work things out, but it is the worse possable timing there could be.

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Re: Expose continued dishonesty
goldpig22 #2223992 03/03/09 06:04 PM
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They were flat out lies. She had told me many times that the last time she saw him outside of the gym was 2/28/08. Last night she told me she saw him twice after that in March. She also revealed that she bought lingerie for him.
Ok, got it. Personally I think you should poly her on WHEN CONTACT ENDED.

You want to make sure that this really IS the truth. That will also help determine who the father of the baby is.

Poly questions must have answers that can be answered by a "yes" or a "no". They must be definitive questions requiring a definitive answer.

Your questions would be "Is it true that the last physical contact you had with OM was March of 2008?" (or whatever date she is giving you)

"Has there been ANY other kind of contact since March 2008?" <this would include things such as phone calls, emails, TMs, messages "sent" through other people (friends, etc.), blah blah blah.

This is what you want to know, correct? And these are the things that are still being lied about?




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Re: Expose continued dishonesty
MarriedForever #2225139 03/05/09 05:01 PM
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That is part of what I wanted to know. She dropped some more bombs on me Tuesday, like that she saw him twice as much as she claimed previously. None of it was really shocking to me because hadn't believed her for the last ten months any way. I know that she has been tested for STD's (twice) because I saw the results. But, she lied about being tested a year ago when the affair started...which I kind of figured.

The details are in the past. But, her lying is in the present. That is what hurts. That is why my love bank is empty.

So, here I am again. Starting all over.

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