So I overheard a tel convo today from a male friend of both my W and I. She stated how odd you called,
Huhhhhhhhh????????????

Every day i come home from work and ask how was your day and what did you do today. SHE NEVER TOLD ME ABOUT THIS!!!!!!!!

When confronted, she said it was nothing, she was in the neiborhood, but decided she would really not bother to go up and ring the doorbell, as she was pressed for time. "I just told him that but it wasn't really true."

My W and I are six years plus beyond dday, and she knows how I feel about O&H and being trasparent. She knows I will not tolerate opposite sex friendships behind my back but nonetheless. Voila!

I know this man too, and he is a friend to us both, but why would she endevour to visit him, and then conviently "forget" to tell me about it, when I ask her daily "what did you do today?"

Is this just paronoid Jerry sufacing again, or was this innocent? "It meant nothing and I simply forgot to tell you!"

Will this EVER END????????????

All Blessings,
Jerry

In reading your post I thought of two things - 1) Either your wife knows it would have upset you if she told you because you lost trust since DDay. She didn't tell you because she didn't want to get you upset. 2) She may be returning to past behavior that triggered her first A.

Is this the only thing or is there more that is making you suspicious?

In any case it was dumb of your W because honesty has to always be there when in R.

GG

I don't think what you're feeling is out of line at all. I would be SEVERELY PO'd if I overheard my FWH tell a woman "oh yeah, I stopped by your house the other day to say hello." Ummm...EXCUSE ME??

It's amazing to me how O&H and transparency are such a mystery to WS's. :RollieEyes: IMO, it's like being pregnant - you either are, or aren't. There's no "sort of" being pregnant, just like there's no "sort of" being O&H or transparent.

So did you explain to her (for probably the umteenth time) why going to see a man "just to say hi", even if he's a mutual friend, is a PROBLEM?

No it's the very thing that made me suspicious in the first place.

Ya know what, forget it,

It's just me

All blessings,
Jerry

NO Jerry, it's NOT just you!

You know what,BS, I don't think I care anymore.

Too many years, too much effort, only to come full circle and begin again at nowhere.

All Blessings,
jerry