This has been bothering me for a while and I need to offload, please.
It takes a wayward to know a wayward and I'm about 90% certain that my mum his having an EA with her first husband. It really tweaks with me because as her daughter, I can't say anything to her. But when she talks about her Facebook page and I receive e-mails from her where he is cc'd, it's like trying to ignore the polka dotted elephant in the room.
She is 53 and has been married to my step-dad for 31 years (3 grown kids of their own and then there's me).
They profess to be happy but their lifestyle indicates differently. Since my brother moved out, my step-dad moved into his room so my parents sleep separately. My mum says it's because he snores but then she complains because she isn't getting SF. At the same time, my step-dad openly looks at porn on a daily basis. I know he takes blood pressure meds so that affects his ability to perform.
What's upsetting to me is that my mum keeps in constant social contact with my father via e-mail, phone and Facebook. They visit each other with their spouses with them but somehow that just doesn't seem right when the only child between them is a grown woman so there's really no need to stay in contact.
The reason why I say that I taught my mum well is because she is doing exactly the same thing that I did when I started having my first affair. I had poor self image so I went to the gym. She had plastic surgery. I had a MySpace account. She has a Facebook account. I introduced the OM to my husband as a friend when we first met. She brings her ex over to the house to socialize with my step-dad.
Even Spartan sees this and doesn't feel comfortable with it. We don't visit very often because of this and that saddens me because I miss my mum and step-dad. But to be around them or get e-mails from her with my father cc'd there just pulls too many triggers.
I don't know how to handle this at all. I can't say anything to her because she will rabidly deny it (just like I did).
I'm so uncomfortable!!!
