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Hi All, <P>I've been on Plan B for almost 3weeks. <P>Although, I am beginning to feel better about myself, know that I deseve better than what I was getting from H, I still have moments that I want to call him and tell him what I am feeling.<P>I know that it wouldn't do any good, but it still makes me so mad. I'm not sure that I want him to come back to me, but I would at least like some kind of light to come on for him. I would like some kind of honestly apology from him. <P>I just need to be encouraged that what I am doing is going to work for me, whether my H ever 'gets over' OW or not.<P>Thanks,<P>c
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Hi C:<P>Just wanted you to know that I think you're doing the right thing for yourself. Whether or not H wakes up, you're getting on with your life for YOU.<P>If H <I>doesn't</I> come back, at least you know that YOU put everything you had into it and the marriage won't have failed for lack of YOUR effort.<P>Be strong and stick to your guns. You can do this, and you'll be a stronger, better person for it. Just remember, if you can survive THIS kind of betrayal, you can survive anything.<P>I'll be thinking about you.<P><P>------------------<BR>/// Lone Star * ///<P>
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Cee, from the board's worst Plan B-er. Hey, do what you can. Plan B is tough. All of this is tough. I've learned so much, come so far, yet...I see so little difference in my situation. I don't think we can do any of this for our spouses, we're doing it for us.<BR><P>------------------<BR>Lor<BR>"Do not get tired of doing what is right, for after awhile you will reap a harvest of blessings if you do not get discouraged and give up. (Gal 6:9)<P>
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Thanks Lone Star- I know I have done all I can. It is so depressing some days. I yearn for the times when things were goo between us. I miss my old H. I miss the man I married.<P>Lor- You are not the worst Plan B-er. This is my 4th attempt at it!!! It is working better this time-but I don't know how long I can hold out. I know any contact with him at this point would be fruitless. He is sooooo in love w/ ow. I just wish he could see what he is doing.<P>I need to learn how to control the things I can, and let God do the rest.<P>Thanks again you guys. Your continued support means so much to me.<P>c
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Keep holding on ceecee. This is my second attempt at Plan B (just went to it today) and the third time my H has moved out. I don't know what the outcome will be, but at least I know I have tried very hard to save my marriage. Take care of yourself and have fun. I know that is hard to do, but I make myself have fun with my kids because if I don't then I am very tempted to call him or sit and wonder what he is doing etc. Make your life fun with or without him!<BR>
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