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I'm struggling with Plan A. My WS is shacked up with OW but still won't admit it to me. He says it's not what I think. He left 1 1/2 months ago and wouldn't tell me where he was staying. I hired a PI to follow him. I did confront him with it but again famous last words "it's not what you think".
My question is on Plan A. I'm struggling because my friends say I shouldn't engage him in conversation or call him. He does come over weekly to drop off money for joint bills. He usually likes to stick around and talk. He wants us to be friends he says but says he doesn't want me to file for D or sell the house because he doesn't think we are ready for that yet. HUH?
How can I do Plan A without seeminigly looking like a doormat. How much is too much? Please help.
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Hopefully one of the vets comes by to offer more sage advice. The weekends can be a little slow on the boards, just an FYI.
I believe what many would say is that you have to snoop, snoop, snoop. Hiring the PI was a good call but it sounds like the evidence you have isn't enough to really stick him with. Many would say to install a key stroke logger on the computer and somehow check his cell phone logs (calls and text). Is that easily done, though he's moved out?
Me/WS 32
H 32
M 6 years, together 12
D-Day 3/8/09
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Snoop, plan A as best you can and expose to everyone. Do they work together?
BH-me 32
WW-27
Married 5 yrs. together for 8
D2
D7
D-Day:11/10
EA for a week went PA and WW immediately left home leaving everything behind.
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