Maybe it would help BH if I could present a powerful, insightful post to him. Either by email or print it up and hand it to him.

Is there a post on the boards, or a few samples from a powerful thread that you could recommend that would help a BH understand MB? Think of it being read by a pessimistic betrayed husband, and how might it help him see how the boards operate and what they can do. I love the one on "Musings from Mark" that honored his 3500 post, but perhaps there is something better -- either standing alone or a collection of a few that I could suggest BH read to get a feel for things. It's a long shot as I've sent him links before, but I have to try. And if I finally get him to look, I want to make sure it can apply to him and won't be a waste of his time. I may get only one shot at it.

Perhaps Mark1952 or Jim_Flint or Sh0cked or Mr. Wondering or another BH can recommend something, since they're BHs too. I'd post the Q on the boards myself but I promised BH I wouldn't post for a while.

I just can't seem to get him over the hump to start seeking help from anywhere. Because I know about MB I'm going to start with MB and see if solid examples from others will get something going

The BH of Looking4 is not particularly interested in MB which is making their R difficult since he is also not interested in either IC or MC.

I know there have been others whose spouses have not thought much of MB but who still managed to get enough of the programme working at home so they at least could come from a common ground with phrases, the rules etc. Could they please advise how they went around it.