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OK here is the story. We are devorsed do to me having an A. got back together 4 yr ago. We have not done a good job of fofilling EN. I had an another A in Dec it ended in Feb. During that time she started an A too. I know a few things about him but not much she is very secretive. She texts him and goes to see him after the kids go to bed.
My question is should I do what I can to stop her from going out? Like leaving my self befor she does?
We where making some progress in the last 2 weeks and have been doing things toggether.
She told me today that Im not her Husben or Boyfriend so her privet life is nobodies buiness!! This was after exposing her A .
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I did some reading here and I now think that trying to stop her from going uot would not be a good Idea. She may feel that Im trying to control her? Also Do you you only do the exposure once?
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She told me today that Im not her Husben or Boyfriend so her privet life is nobodies buiness!! She is factually correct.
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technically she is right...you are not her husband.....you have continued to have affairs.
Have you ever thought...she would have a limit....maybe if you crossed the boundry....it would be the last straw.
I am afraid you made your own bed here literally.
Plus legally you cannot keep her from going out....if you physically do it is known as false imprisonment and violates her civil rights. You could go to jail.
If you 2 are determind to give it a shot....have you ever thought of marriage counseling?
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She can do whatever she wants with whomever she wants. She is a free agent.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Stay divorced.
Neither one of you is marriage material.
You both have a lot of growing up to do.
Chalk this misdirected effort off as just one more foolish decision you made in your life.
All Blessings,
Jerry
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She may feel that Im trying to control her? Oh good Lord, heaven forbid she should feel that!! All Blessings, Jerry
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