I signed the papers in Iraq and sent them out, but while being deployed there is alot of time for reflection. Going back on what happened to me I see how far the OM has gotten away with things. Not only that, but it's possible had help from other people I might know.
You see the OM was the most disrespectful, arrogant and contemptuous boss ever. He got away with some serious bullcrap that would never have happened in the civilian sector. Nothing has been more humiliating to me than to bow out to this idiot or risk a demotion/. He was 5 years younger and a totally irresponsible pathological lying piece of #2. No, I am beyond mad, I have some serious hatred for this man. I was able to resist running into a friends house and pulverizing him by slamming the door shut (it stuck shut because I apparently broke it). Why do I just sit here and let all of this happen? I can't stand it anymore. I feel like I got a choke collar around my neck and I can't do anything at all. It's too late. He already got my wife pregnant. He told her all the negative stuff I said about her, and then used all the loving things I said about her as his own words to her. I know this because my WW told me the exact lines that I told my platoon, as if it came directly from OM. My wife also gave him a relationship book that I bought to improve our marriage, that he used effectively to destroy it.
I am trying to settle down before I take out my anger on some other arrogant idiots I am stuck with that are constantly lording over me and humiliating me in anyway possible. Why do I have to be the one to constantly take this crap? I'm seriously tired of the immaturity within my job. I am also tired of my own immaturity in not dealing with this guy or confronting him directly. It's just I never coould settle down my rage that just boiled over to the point where if I probably would go to far in a fight.
I discovered later on that OM's character corresponds directly with psychopathic behavior. As much as I was having a hard time with my marriage from inexperience with women, I just wish that my divorce went down without knowing that my soon to be ex was going to marry an absolute idiot. Of course, I am one of those who wanted a marriage until death parted. I wouldn't of divorced her for anything except this. I would write more but I goto go.

Just imagine this guy calling you a female dog every freaking day. Imagine picking up the trash all around a vehicle and doing what I am supposed to do. Then being asked, "Did you pick up the trash?"
"Yes"
"THEN WHAT'S THIS" as the OM spikes the trash he picked up somewhere else on my chest and then with an arrogant pose say, "Pick it up!". I wanted to just punch him in the face but I couldn't risk demotion so I picked it up with him standing over me his legs spread far apart.
I have never felt so much hatred in all my life. I try to let it go and pray for WW's protection and confessing my own sins, but it just comes back. I wake up in the middle of the night fuming. There's so much I had to deal with that just seems unresolved and unclosed in my mind. I hope when I go on leave, some skydiving or surfing will help alleviate the negative emotions I have. None of the negatives are toward my WW.
Obviously I know more than I did then and I realize that I was naive. Treated my wife like one of my bros growing up. Never had any experience with women; she was my first love. So I really didn't know how to deal with the temper tantrums (from not resolving her emotional issues), was easily manipulated to do things I didn't want to do and not expressing gestures of love enough to her (I loved her deeply, I just didn't know how to express it in a way a woman would understand.).

Not sure if you stated this elsewhere, but do you have any children with this woman? Is OM still your boss? I would ask to be transferred and divorce this woman as soon as possible. Nothing good can happen in this scenario. Write them off and start over. This anger won't do anything but hurt you. Learn from your mistakes and move on.