Hi everyone-
my H and i just came home from the weekend, and we had deliberated for a long time about going before we signed up.

it was expensive.
we had to fly far and that was expensive.
we didnt have time to take off from work.
who would watch our kids?
it wouldnt be fun.
we might feel awkward.
we have the home study course already - so lets just do that.
and a million other excuses.

i actually borrowed the money to go from my H's life insurance policy.

it was worth every penny!!!!!!!!

if you are trying to make the marraige work and have two willing participants - JUST DO IT!!

not only having the experience of meeting the wonderful Harley family - but being able to ask Dr. Harley, himself any questions- to meet the other couples we knew from this board- and most importantly - to get PEOPLE WHO WILL HELP US HEAL OUR MARRIAGE AFTER THE WEEKEND IS OVER!!!!!!!!!!!!

we have been to many other programs - but when they ended - they were over.

not so here - the Harleys meet weekly with the other weekend follow up people and discuss individuals who are struggling and how to help them!!!

i already called this morning with an issue that upset me - and spoke to the follow up person - and hung up the phone feeling so much better. there is a way out of the woods... and this person is leading me there. as is dr. harley.

i only regret that we didnt go sooner.

if you want to heal your marriage- GO.

i wasnt even sure, and sometimes still am not sure, that i wanted to heal ... i thought of divorce often - at least 10 times a day- and i still have those thoughts - but now i know that there are people who will help me through the rough times with a PLAN.

today is a new day.

sf

sunflower, did you know that Greenmile, and his wife, sss, and tst and SMB also went!? Did you meet them?

I will attest to the fact that the weekend is fabulous. It took my marriage to a new level that we did not get from reading the books and the forum. It brought it to a PASSIONATE level. They really mean what they say when they promise to teach you how to restore the romantic love in your marriage. It changes everything.

Everything they say just makes perfect sense in a way that no other marriage program does. I am so very glad my H and I got to go.

Hi melody-
first of all - thanks for your insightful posts to me and my H (he is rfwihd - regretful for what i have done) in the past. you are really a gift to everyone on this board.

and YES! we did get to meet sadsosad, green mile, tst and SMB!! it was great to meet them. we all knew that we were coming - so it was even better. i know in my heart that
G-d planned it that way.

in my case - the weekend did not bring our marriage to a passionate level - although now i am hoping for that - but it brought if from a certain divorce to a marriage in recovery. i can say today that i am staying - as my other thread title was "How to decide to stay in the marriage" .

i am staying bc there are other people who will help me along the way - who will support me in this struggle of change and working through the pain.

it HAS changed everything!

sf

sf55

Glad to see the MB weekend help you and H. Do most couples only go once or do they have repeat customers who want to make sure they stay the course?

br-
i dont know if any couple would need to go twice because after the weekend is over - that is when the real work begins!!

the program offers a person who gives her phone number and e mail and is available to talk at any time. i spoke to her this morning! and she discussed the cases with dr. harley on tuesdays. and we can e mail diretly to dr, harley.

they call us weekly to check up on us and offer all kinds of support and help to us when we struggle. it is really unbelievable if you think of it! there is no other weekend workshop that offers help and support forever! they said they never drop us!

it feels to me like someone has taken my hand and is helping lead me through being lost in the forest - i now have a guide to help me get out of that deep dark forest. it is relief.

sf

Have you told your FWS this?

He needs to hear this from you.

I am sorry I was not clear on that point! The weekend did not create passion in my marriage, following the program BEGUN by the MB weekend did. The things that we learned and implemented from going to the weekend and subsequent lessons changed everything. We went with another MB couple too, MrW and MrsW and that made it so much more fun! In fact, I wrote MelodyLane on my name tag and MrsW said "she is trying to get us beat up!"

smb-
YES - i did share this with him , but i need to reinforce it. and i will - when we speak later today.

i did have some upsets with him on the way home, but it seems we have worked them out.

i know it will be a long journey - not just straight up, but up and down. but now i feel so encouraged that i and he can do it.

i did feel he was very brave for speaking so openly when asking a question of dr. harley in front of everyone- and i found something to admire!

sf

BR, Dr Harley and his staff make sure you stay the course by contacting you WEEKLY afterwards to follow up on your assignments. You have an assignment every week until you get through the whole program. They guide you through the entire program.

And even then, if you get tripped up later, you always have access to Dr HArley over on the weekend forum every day. There are people over there posting to him that went to the weekend seminar years ago.