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What to do when WS wont stop
#2233614 03/24/09 08:53 PM
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Well what do you do when there is no help from friends or family. They say just let her do "Her THING".
This is after exposure. And do you only do Exposure once?
She has told me she is not going to stop at this time.
Now what?
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Plan B.
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Originally Posted by hertconfused34
Well what do you do when there is no help from friends or family. They say just let her do "Her THING".
This is after exposure. And do you only do Exposure once?
She has told me she is not going to stop at this time.
Now what?

So, there's been more than one time?

Plan B, followed by Plan D.

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Re: What to do when WS wont stop
ManInMotion #2233710 03/25/09 08:01 AM
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MIM,

They are already divorced! Both have had multiple A's (I think) and unless coached jointly with the Harley's it's pretty a hopeless cause!




Recovery began 10/07;

Meeting my wife's EN's is my "thank you" that refuses to be silenced.
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hertconfused34 #2233718 03/25/09 08:12 AM
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Originally Posted by hertconfused34
Well what do you do when there is no help from friends or family. They say just let her do "Her THING".
This is after exposure. And do you only do Exposure once?
She has told me she is not going to stop at this time.
Now what?

Do you and your XW understand what you are teaching your children?? That this is how relationships work???

Sounds like to me that you and your XW should not be together at all. One of your needs to be an adult here and do whats best for your kids.

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(Confirmed by polygraph that it had not gone PA)
Dday1 4/13/08
Dday2 8/8/08
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Trying to Recover
Re: What to do when WS wont stop
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Originally Posted by tst
MIM,

They are already divorced!

So what's all this about "exposure"?

Why would he be caring about an XW that he D'd due to adultery?

I'm totally confused.

I still say Plan B is the best option. A permanent Plan B.

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Re: What to do when WS wont stop
ManInMotion #2233791 03/25/09 09:45 AM
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MIM.....Here's what he said in his other thread....

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Im 37 she is 33. we have 2 kids 11,and 9. You almost have it. we have been living together for 4 years now. I have not been happy for the last 2 yr. Very littel EM met by her. I had an A that started in Nov and ended in Feb of this year.

I had an afair Resantly. while I was in the fog my w started an A.
My A is over and I wnat to recansile. She said not yet one day at a time!!
She is on the phone texting to her om all the time. She has said thats her privet life and nobodies buisness!!
She thinks its ok becuase the kids are asleep when she goes out, and comes home.
I have been in plane A for 3 weeks and things are going good.
She will not meet my EN and wont let me meet hers.
Im confussed as to what to do???


I XWW had an affair that caused the D. They were apart for ? amount of time then decided to get back together without getting married again.

4 years later they are both cheating on the other one.

That's a real healthy environment for the kids!!!

Me46
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Married 19 yrs
EA 4/07 - 4/08
(Confirmed by polygraph that it had not gone PA)
Dday1 4/13/08
Dday2 8/8/08
S26
S16
D10
Trying to Recover

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