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#2233816 03/25/09 08:57 AM
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Well good day to all and welcome to my house.

After six years I decided I needed a new house as my old one was full of triggers and bad memories, so this is where I hang out now. I hope this will be my place of wisdom and laughter, as no one ever has enough of either.

Please feel free to leave us some laughs, wisdom or a good cry.

No more WW here, no more oh poor me here. It's a new day, what is done is done and I get to start over after six tough years.

The people in my house are my two DD's. They are 10 and eight, we have two cat's, Rascal and Sammy and a whole whack of fish.

We may get a hamster again or a Cavy, that is up to the kids.

I don't have many rules in my new house, just some thoughts I like to share with the kids, the cat's don't listen much.

1. I am as strong as I want to be.
2. My WW has as much power over me as I let her have.
3. I am the king in my house as long as my kids let me be.
4. Friday is spanish rice day. (my kids came up with that).
5. Everyday starts off they way we want it to.
6. Don't be sorry, just don't do it again.
7. A warm beer is better than no beer.
8. Show as much love as you can to everyone around you.
9. The road ahead may be bumpy, but that will make it more fun.
10. All rules are made by me, as longs as the girls agree.


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Wow, is the same man who showed up here in despair 2 weeks ago!? What an amazing change! This is a man who is in charge of his own life... smile

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CATS??? crazy


"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

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I am working on it.

Got enough 2x4's when I came back that it was time for me to take charge of my life for me and my kids.

Wisdom #1

If you can imagine it, you can achieve it; if you can dream it, you can become it.
William Arthur Ward

This made me think a lot.

We all have dreams, it's just to often we let life get in the way of them. For me it was my WW that I let get in the way.

See it
Believe it
Do it.





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And yes, my girls have two cat's.


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I like your rules Alan. I would consider modifying #10 a bit.

Cats are cool Mel....we have 2 also!


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Rule #10.

I make the rules, alowing input from my girls.

Unrest of spirit is a mark of life; one problem after another presents itself and in the solving of them we can find our greatest pleasure.
Kal Menninger


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>We may get a hamster again or a Cavy, that is up to the kids.

Cavys live longer than a hamster, have more personality, and you can keep them in a hutch outside as long as you have a hutch that will sheild them from the rain.

They can also be litter trained.

Get a cavy.

Oh...and they are GREAT disposals. Any uneaten salad or apple cores, celery ends, or carrot peelings they will happily take care of for you.

(they can't have potato or onion)

They'll sing for their supper, too.

They also do this really cute thing called "popcorning" where they hop up off of all fours and then jet around their cage. It's so freaking funny! A really happy cavy will popcorn a few times a day to get exercise.


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Ah, and there are a number of really fun Cavy clubs on Facebook.

I belong to one for Cavvies, one for weiner dogs and one for musk turtles.

:-)

Happiness is a house full of Wookies and pets who love you.


I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?

O'hana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten.

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I must say a Cavy sounds very cool.

Any animal that can sing is a friend of mine. Do you think he could learn Elton John?

I love Elton John, just saw him in concert a few months back. Great show.


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A cavy club on facebook, well my girls would love that.


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Dunno. Mine sing when they are happy...they sing when they see me...and they sing when they are hungry or thirsty...or when the fridge opens...or when the kids are outside with them...or when I bring them to work...

I love cavy song...it's not as soothing as whale song, but it's sweet in it's own way.


I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?

O'hana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten.

My Story

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Well I hope the kids like them, and I assume they will. So perhaps we will have a cavy soon.


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So what's the recipe for spanish rice?


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two things -

what's a cavy? is that like a ferret? yes, I know, I could google it but that would be one more place on the internet that I am that isn't here or looking for a job and that would be bad.

everytime I see the name on this forum of Stillstanding I get elton john's still standing song stuck in my head....


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A cavy is a guiena pig.

And Chry...I've got the recipe for my mil's MEXICAN rice...

It's SUPER num!


I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?

O'hana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten.

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>Stillstanding

Me too, Coho...there are a few names here that make me sing.

When I see Cinders posting I sing the song from Cinderella.


I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?

O'hana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten.

My Story

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hmmm, I like the way you have decorated Alan!


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He needs some Yankee Candles...coconut scented for summer...

But other than that, it's lovely.


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Spanish Rice

6 slices of bacon
1/4 cup onion chop fine
3 cups boiled rice (not instant)
2 cups canned tomatos
1 1/2 tsp salt
1/8 tsb pepper
Grated chedder cheese

Fry the bacon,chop then remove to a medium greased baking dish.
Saute the onions in bacon grease.
Combine bacon, rice and tomatos.
Cover with cheese and bake for 30 mins @ 400



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Sorry, cook the rice before you combine it with the bacon and tomatos.

And a Cavy is a Guinnie pig


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