I am divorced. But I have a friend of mine (who divorced at the same time as me) who just married a guy she met after 1 year. Yes, I tried to give her advice but nothing worked. The thing is - she has never met his family. Supposedly he has a host of sisters and brothers, neices and nephews and friends in another city just a few miles away. He goes there quite often to visit his kids who lives with his ex wife but has never taken her to meet anyone. I see something wrong with the picture but she doesn't. She says from what he tells her, he has no interest in the x-wife; she's nothing and + she's moved on (they've only been divorced 1yr and a 1/2) and says he can't stand her anyway. Recently when they got married. No one, I mean no one from his family/friends came (he didn't invite them). Only her family was there. And more recently, according to her. She has emailed his sisters about a party for him and guess what - they are not interested in meeting her and are not coming. Supposedly they are all cool with the X. What is going on with this guy? She has her suspicions but doesn't know how to approach the situation anymore.

Sounds pretty fishy to me too. What was the reason for this guy's divorce, and why does the family seem to be taking the XW's side?

I guess if I were her, I would be insistent in going to meet his family. Maybe just to go with him on these trips, and have a lunch. If that's not ok, with him, I don't see why she couldn't arrange to meet with the family herself, IMO.

Part of an O&H marriage is to completely reveal who you are, including your past. Even if the family doesn't think that his divorce was legit or something like that, I would think they could a least be willing to explain why they feel that way to her for her own sake, if her new husband won't.

I don't know for sure but according to an email the x-wife sent (and she only got to read a little of it). He cheated. Supposedly the X is some saint,(older than she)somewhere around 39 or 40 very into church, nice looking and well groomed kids from what she could tell from putting it all together with what he's said and when she dropped off the kids one time. The x-wife knew who she was but never said anything to her. She supposedly just went on.

So your friend married a man without knowing why/how his first marriage failed? She needs to know this...and right away. I get the felling she doesn't really know the person she married.

I'm sure there are plenty of legitimate reasons why someone might cut themselves off from their family. However, since this guy doesn't reveal them, chances are they are not. People only hide things that need to be hidden. I'm afraid your fried is in for some rough times ahead. I doubt there's anything you can do except be there when it all falls apart. It was foolish to marry a man who wouldn't even introduce her to family.