Terri--<P>I agree with the other posters. and am AMAZED she had the audacity to send you that e-mail. it does seem to be "telling," in that there must be trouble in paradise or she wouldn't have felt the need to do that.<P>I rarely have contact with H's ex-W--which is how I can relate to your situation personally--matter of fact, try NOT to. I feel things should be discussed between the two of them when necessary. (wonder if I'm wrong) but ANYway...I think ya done good.

You did good, much better than me cuz I'd open a scrillion email accounts and start emailing him love notes from around the world thanking him for his cyber-sex attention, for lunch yesterday, for the nude photos and stuff. <P>Ya, I'm sooo mature! Ha! "All's fair in love and war"

Well, I must admit ... the next day I thought of the perfect reply to her email message:<BR>"Gee, between the 'exercise' he gets at home and what he gets when we're together, it's a wonder the man can even stand up!"<P>But I didn't send it. <P>One of the other things I wanted to say was in response to her "you're not a welcome member of our buddy list" - 'And I don't recall ever inviting you into my marriage, either...' But, again, it wouldn't have been a good thing.<P>I am not above sending occasional email messages with 'innocent' messages designed for interception. But it might backfire, so I will hold off on doing things like that.<P> <P>------------------<BR>terri<BR>No, I'm not a Marriage Counselor,<BR>But I did sleep at a <BR>Holiday Inn Express last night...<BR>

Terri-<BR>Keep doing what you're doing. While it would certainly be easy to get down on Slug's level, I commend you the way you're handling things. It appears Slug is uptight and from the looks of things, she has a right to be. Your H isn't lost to you and she has a weak, slimey, slippery grip on him. I was just thinking what a dash of salt would do to a slug...hee hee hee<P>Hang in there...<BR><P>------------------<BR>For I know the thoughts I think<BR>toward you, saith the Lord,<BR>thoughts of peace, not of evil,<BR>to give you an expected end.<BR>Jeremiah 29:11<BR>

Well, I sent email to my husband today. A simple message about family, something like this:<BR>========<BR>H,<BR>I was thinking it would be a good idea to get your sister a housewarming card or gift for her house/birthday.<P>Let me know if you'd like to go in on something together.<P>Terri<BR>========<P>Within 1/2 hour, I got a reply something like this:<BR>========<BR>Terri,<BR>(H) can afford to get his sister a gift by himself! And we can afford to pay your cable bill!!!! Have a NICE DAY!!! WE WILL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!<P>Slug<BR>========<P>Think she was a little riled up? Perhaps the cable bill came in the mail today and p'd her off, huh? Oh, well ....<P> <P>------------------<BR>terri<BR>No, I'm not a Marriage Counselor,<BR>But I did sleep at a <BR>Holiday Inn Express last night...<BR>

Not a good day ... I am sooo fried and sooo tired - and have sooo much work to do and sooo little time to do it in. Anybody got some "more hours in a day" they can sell me real cheap.<P>Oh, and I can't pay my bills, which means that I am risking having the electric and the phone turned off. The creditors have actually stopped calling me - that's how bad it is (except for the one that called me at my second job here last week).<P>Tonight I have to try to pay a few bills - but if they have turned off the phone, I can't do it because I pay my bills online now.<P>Frustrating conversation with my husband, too. Maybe a little love-busting on my part, even. I know just how Chris is feeling, I think - only I've been doing this for a <B>year</B> as of the second week in November (WITH regular contact) ... the week that my husband goes on his little vacation jaunt with the slug...<P>I wish I could just run away and hide for a month or so, come back and it would all be gone...<P>There ... that feels better... just having a place to vent and knowing that someone will read it and shake their head and maybe send up a prayer for me ... Thanks!<P>terri