Hi
I've been luking on and off for about a year and a half. I'm pretty familiar with Dr. Harleys opinions and theories on marriage. I've tried his plans and basically have gotten nada.
6 months A, about 6 months B, and now, well, basically we don't talk at all. I told her if she doesn't want to try, I'll play the game too. So we co-exist, like the bumper sticker says.

Here's my question. I have used a keylogger for about a year now. I've found NO evidence of any hanky panky. None. BUt for the past month, I'm beginning to see little things that worry me.

Her emails have dropped off significantly. I can't find any evidence of a new address. Its as if she's stopped using the computer as a way of communicating. I've keylogged all the computers. I can see any emails she sends from work. Nothing. Sooo......

She purchased ONE ticket to a local off broadway show. Just one. WHy one? Maybe I'm letting my imagination run wild, but thats strange.

NOw, I'm racking my brain to figure out why. Maybe its for an affair, maybe not. BUt it still intrigues me. I have the feeling the reason is pretty simple, but I can't for the life of me figure it out.

If she was worried about getting found out, why not let someone else purchase it? SHe purchase one, he purchase another? Dating someone ACTING in the play?

Any detectives out there? Thanks.

Why bother? You've basically both decided that you no longer want to have a relationship. Why not proceed directly to D and stop wasting each other's time?

Its my time to waste.

And in no way did I say I didn't want a relationship with her.

Any ideas?

Your EXACT words were: "I told her if she doesn't want to try, I'll play the game too.".

Doesn't sound like someone who wants a relationship with her.

Why DO you want a relationship with her anyway? It sounds like she doesn't want one with you, and it takes two to make a good relationship.

How long did her A last? How did you find out? Was this a co-worker of her's? Are they still working together? You need to give a little more information than you provided.

What happened during Plan A that made you go into Plan B? What was the out come of Plan B (going dark with no contact) Did you both do MB or just you? Did you both complete the EN questionarre? What about the LB Questionarre?

Did you guys separate, live in separate places? How did you get from PLan B, back to living together but not working on your M?

Something doesn't sound right

I am very confused. You do realize that Plan A and Plan B are for situations where there is an active AFFAIR? If you have no evidence of an affair why are you doing those plans?

What is the problem in the marriage that initially caused you to want to do them?

And do you know that Plan B is complete separation? How long have you lived apart and what was the reason since she is not in affair?

Did she have an affair?

Hmmmm....he never does actually say that she had an A does he? He just says that he's checking up on her.