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I had to divorce, as my XW would not stop cheating and lying. But, in retrospect, it was for the best. I doubt I'd ever see the requisite remorse and repair work. But, if I had, i also doubt I'd feel great about remaining married. I think , for me, getting out and away from the marriage was the best thing.
Divorce is not bad and the life post divorce is very enjoyable.
I would imagine, initially, it will take some getting used to. But, once out for a while, your life will improve and you can put this bad chapter behind you to some extent.
You deserve a chance to be happy in an untainted marriage. Your wife made the decision to bring all this about and you should not feel bad about doing what you must do to find happiness.
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ZELMO,
Wondering if you had kids? Krazy has kids and it will kill him to move out.
Plus Krazy's wife is very remorseful and is doing all she can to rebuild the M.
Your XW would not stop cheating and lying. That is a good reason to D.
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Many a good man has failed because he had a wishbone where his backbone should have been.
We gain strength, and courage, and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face... we must do that which we think we cannot.
--------Eleanor Roosevelt
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Hey Krazy....What's going on?
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Hi all...sorry for disappearing for so long.
We finally had a civil discussion about divorce. About custody, who would get what, etc.
Of course there were tears, but I felt a huge sense of relief knowing this can be done amicably. It doesn't have to be a war.
We really wouldn't even need an attorney. No debt, and we rent. Is there such a thing as a no-attorney, amicable divorce?
If not, I will not hesitate to lawyer up.
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Krazy
Glad you checked in, we all have been wondering.
I am sorry. Even though it is the right decision for you i am still sorry for your family.
Hang in there.
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>Is there such a thing as a no-attorney, amicable divorce?
Yes. My cousin did his divorce himself. Look it up online.
(((Krazy Man)))
Yer a wicked-cool dude, if I do say so myself.
Your due some contentment in your life, imo.
I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?O'hana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten. My Story Recovered!
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>Is there such a thing as a no-attorney, amicable divorce?
Yes. My cousin did his divorce himself. Look it up online.
(((Krazy Man)))
Yer a wicked-cool dude, if I do say so myself.
You're due some contentment in your life, imo.
I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?O'hana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten. My Story Recovered!
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Mackin'frackin'doublewhackin!
I HATE NO EDITS!
I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?O'hana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten. My Story Recovered!
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Thank you.
I know I've been a real a-hole to some very good people here...MelodyLane and Medc come to mind. I apologize to anyone I've offended, either with my opinions or my poor choice of words.
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Now you're just being schmoozy and silly.
We ALL have our opinions.
If YOU apologize for yours, then we're all are gonna have to have a schmooze fest...and I ain't that kind o'gal.
I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?O'hana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten. My Story Recovered!
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Thank you.
I know I've been a real a-hole to some very good people here...MelodyLane and Medc come to mind. I apologize to anyone I've offended, either with my opinions or my poor choice of words. {{{{{Krazy}}}}} It has always been apparent that you were speaking from a place of extreme hurt. I think most people here get that. I hope you find some peace one day.
Happily married to HerPapaBear
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Krazy,
Anything new to report?
Are you doing okay?
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Krazy,
You give me the uttmost confidence that I made the right decision to leave and go to plan D. I regret the attack on my way out, but I'm so glad I left. I so feared the long, drawn out heartache that you have endured. I think you are making the right choice. Sadly, some can just never get passed it no matter WHAT the WS does to try and fix it. Some things we do in life to the ones we love are DEALBREAKERS. Its that simple. I wish you all the luck in the world.
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I know I've been a real a-hole to some very good people here...MelodyLane and Medc come to mind. I apologize to anyone I've offended, either with my opinions or my poor choice of words. You have also brought a strong opinion to those with no backbones laying on doorsteps. I have seen numerous occasions where you have helped (or tried to help) others. Don't forget that!
Me: 32 BS DDay: 9/14/08
Slowly coming to the realization that I
am one of those who can't get past it.
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I know I've been a real a-hole to some very good people here...MelodyLane and Medc come to mind. I apologize to anyone I've offended, either with my opinions or my poor choice of words. You have also brought a strong opinion to those with no backbones laying on doorsteps. I have seen numerous occasions where you have helped (or tried to help) others. Don't forget that! Speaking of MEDC.....where's he been? I haven't seen him around for quite a while. Mike_C2 either
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There is such a thing as a no-attorney, amicable divorce. You might want to consult with one at the very least just in case WW starts to become unreasonable. Prayers to you Krazy...and no you can't dodge them or wash them off. 
BW - me
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Many a good man has failed because he had a wishbone where his backbone should have been.
We gain strength, and courage, and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face... we must do that which we think we cannot.
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I know I've been a real a-hole to some very good people here...MelodyLane and Medc come to mind. I apologize to anyone I've offended, either with my opinions or my poor choice of words. You have also brought a strong opinion to those with no backbones laying on doorsteps. I have seen numerous occasions where you have helped (or tried to help) others. Don't forget that! Speaking of MEDC.....where's he been? I haven't seen him around for quite a while. Mike_C2 either MEDC was booted for expressing his own opinion that did not jive with the party establishment.
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Speaking of MEDC.....where's he been? I haven't seen him around for quite a while. Mike_C2 either MEDC was booted for expressing his own opinion that did not jive with the party establishment. I had been wondering the same thing about MEDC, i took a slight hiatus from MB during Dec and Jan and just thought maybe he had decided to quit posting. I did not know he got the boot. That is too bad.
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