I'm saying whilst he is in the house and you can make deposits in his lovebank there is hope.

Do you want to do this?

Any BS give some input please??

yes i want to do this but how do i do this without hurting myself everytime he rejects me and runs to her its slowly killing me

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thank you

Hey, neat facility!

what am i to do he spend last night with her and didnt show any guilt what so ever she is happy to take whatever he gives so shes not going away iam trying plan a but suffered a set back today i didnt cry when i knew about last night but then we were called up to the school our eldest was in trouble well that set me off crying and saying i feel like a failure as a mother as well as a wife hes not the man i married i know hes in the fog but he shows he just doesnt care anymore he knows iam hurting and tells me if i cant handle it he will find a flat to live in which at the moment we cant afford so i am doing what i can to keep him her for the kids help me please i dont know if i can keep this up much longer i want him back so bad.

i have told him he can stay until after easter then i told him to go stay with her but he said he will get his own place i just cant take it anymore he spent another night with her and when i try to explain my feelings he doesnt care he is so cold hes not the man i married and i dont think i even like him anymore but since i told him he has been very quiet and angry so i hope he is finally realising what he is going to lose

iam seeking conselling this week iam trying to get my self together for the sake of my children he thinks cause i have said to move back in to be with the kids and thats his life he thinks he doesnt have to hide it anymore so he spends nights there with ow and doesnt even go into another room when she calls but he is still hiding his mobile(only cause he thinks i go thur it which i do but what he doesnt know doesnt hurt him)i found a photo of her on his mobile and i deleted it she kept texting him when he was with his kids so i texted her and told her to f#@k off and i turned his phone off i asked him to tell her not to contact him while hes with the kids but i dont think he was listening to me.
I have tried talking him about my feelings about him staying over night with ow but he doesnt want to know,I asked him if hes happy and i told him i know hes not happy and he didnt anwser me so after all this crap hes still not happy oh well as i said iam looking out for myself at the moment and maybe he will see what hes losing