She says she has been completely honest with me about all of it, and I've baited her a few times to try and get her to admit more stuff, which she has, but none of it contradicts her saying she didnt have anything physical with him. Since I'm not standing there in front of her asking her, then at this point all I have is her word...


PS. the SIM card spy doesnt work for Verizon phones =\ thanks for the info though.

GI,

So she is still talking to the guy!?! But "telling our family that she is ready for me to come home so we can talk and work things out and all,"

Does she think you don't know about her talking to him still?

Where does the other guy live? Far away? Did she know him from long ago? Do you know the guy?

Sorry, to lazy to look up your old thread.

kirk

My husband denied, denied, denied. His words meant nothing because he was lying to cover his a$$. No way he was ever going to fess up. I had to catch him to get him to admit it. We made no progress until I discovered the truth and had enough proof that he could no longer make an excuse. His excuses were insulting. I would put the weblogger on your computer. You can see every key she types, every password, every chat, im, website that she visits, and webpage that she sees including every email that she opens on the target computer. Once installed, you could watch her from work if you log in to their website. The one that I use is Webwatcher.

Kirk,

Yeah she is still talking to him, I really have no idea if there is face to face contact outside of them working together however. She talks about getting a divorce to me b/c she says that I deserve better and she doesnt know how we can be "normal" again after this. I have no idea if she knows I can monitor her talking to him. I want to say she does but either forgot about it or doesn't care. The OM lives about 15-20 min from base, however when I separate two months after I get back from over here we will be moving about 1700 miles away. He has been working at the same place she has, but she never really talked to him until she started working a different shift. I think I have met him once or twice. Do you think I should call him number and as him WTF? Sorry it took awhile to respond, internet went down out here.

If you need more information, snoop first. They will both deny everything until you have proof. Don't alert your wife or OM that you are watching them. Then, once you have your proof, act.

Most will tell you not to bother with OM. I am not a veteran here. In my personal situation, it helped to contact OW after I had enough proof that my WS could no longer deny the truth. Once I threatened her and told her that I had no intention of leaving my husband and had every intention of making her life a living He!!, she dumped my husband. N/C was established at that point. My husband was relieved that it was over. She had been blackmailing him with exposure to me. I have also contacted her husband and her employer. My situation is not the norm though.

I don't think that the OM cares about your opinion or feelings at all. If he has a wife or girlfriend, you definitely need to expose to them. I don't think that it would hurt to let OM know that you know about him. I would let him know that you plan to make the affair as difficult and unpleasant as possible including contacting his employer. Let him know that the fun is over. I think that will be more effective than appealing to his morals - he doesn't have any.