I think I have been doing plan A. I ordered the book about infildelity, but haven't gotten it yet. My husband told me about the affair in Jan., moved out in Feb., and filed for divorce in Mar. A coworker came on to him in Nov. ie: "I have a crush on you and we need to watch our boundaries". This is his first affair and we've never been to counseling. I think his mind was made up about not working on our marriage when he told me in Jan. We have been married for 17 years and have 2 teen girls. Is plan A showing him my best self? I'm trying to do that, look my best, be kind and loving, but not romantic. I took the emotional needs survey (answered like I was him) and his most needs are (I think), affection, sexual and admiration. We have had intimacy issues (I haven't felt good about myself-poor body image). I don't know how to meet those needs if he is barely speaking to me - only about the girls. Any ideas would be great.
Thanks