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#2243125 04/08/09 08:12 PM
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It's been almost three years since D-Day and my divorce was final in January 2008. I post less and less and all I can serve as is a warning to others of just how bad it can truly get.

I lost everything, she won, OM lost nothing and I walked away beaten in defeat.

I valued your advice and it has helped me succeed in moving on.

I still hate OM with every fiber of my being and my morals are broken. I accept that and can live with myself.



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you helped a few of us on the way pariah... thanks


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What?? Wait!! You can't leave us!!!


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uhuh not allowed uhuh

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Pariah, don't go. Unless you just need to walk away from it all. But you are very valuable here.

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Originally Posted by Pariah
I still hate OM with every fiber of my being and my morals are broken. I accept that and can live with myself.

I hope someday you can turn hate to indifference. All the best to you.

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I need to move foreward, the future's call is greater than the past.
I have no plans to ever remarry and my distrust of women hasn't waned. Could possibly be due to my brain injury like some sort of imprint. Who knows.

I feel I have recovered as far as I can from the gunshot wound and am content with it's progress. I regained my Class 3 medical and my pilot's license so I can take to the sky with my feathered friends once again.

I am truly happy with the earth well below my feet.

My job has been terrific, I hated teaching and only did it as I thought stability over income was neccessary. I will be upper management here soon and I have watched other people get laid off or hours cut while I have been unaffected.

I know the XW has been asking about me as information gets back to her. The mechanic at the airport is a mutual friend and I know he can't keep his mouth shut so I feed information I feel is relevant like my bonus I got this year that was a year's salary. He asked her out and she refused. He asks if I'm still with Tabitha and I asked why, he always responds with just asking.

I have a facebook account for her to snoop about on that's filled with my successful life after harpy.

I woke up one morning and discovered my life is full of Win, I better not squander it.


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I don't think you're done here Pariah. Myopia isn't a desirable trait in a pilot.

This place is no one's home. You can always come back. smile

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Originally Posted by Pariah
my morals are broken.

What do you mean by this?

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Originally Posted by curious53
Originally Posted by Pariah
my morals are broken.

What do you mean by this?

I can't be trusted anymore to do the "right" thing.

I will always be in self preservation mode.


Church? I absolutely will never return there.


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Pariah - You are too good of a man to say you will never marry again. Yes, you got screwed, but somewhere out there, a good woman will come to you. I promise you that. It has been almost 5 years for me, and I'm happy again. It WILL happen to you too.

BTW, my baby bird is happy, well loved, and can fly about 5 feet. Okay, he mostly flies down, but is learning and eating well. And it is all thanks to you.

Don't give up on yourself. It would be a shame for a good man to do that. There aren't enough of them in this world.

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Pariah,

Has something happened with the girlfriend??



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Pariah could you email me please smile


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Pariah, don't go. If you go, Seabird will be the ONLY guy here!!!!



I do not blame the xwh for his affairs and abandoning our marriage. He fulfills 90% of the Cleckley Criteria

I forgive him for his insanity and I forgive myself for being gullible to his charms.
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Seabird will be the ONLY guy here!!!!

I don't know about being the ONLY guy......but seems like they are dwindling away...doesn't it?


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Cause we usually wind up the losers in the end?

It's easter. Guess what. It was just another sunday that I clean the house, take the garbage out, wonder just which dingbats I am going to have to reprimand tomorrow and decide who hits the chopping block.

The younger women at work are sucking up to me, it makes me sick and resent them for it. I'm old enough to know when a chick is being fake or out to get something. The meaner I become, the harder they try. Why?

I fear that I'm becoming mysogenic.



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You sound like my brother

And because a lot of women are people pleasers, they are just trying to make you happy.

They're young still, they don't know only you can make you happy


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They didn't start this behavior until the layoffs began.



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so you think they are making nice because........?


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