My FWW just recently became a WW again through facebook and an old high school friend who is stationed in another country. He has sent her lewd photos and the sex talk made me boil when I read it. I've contacted his wife.

I feel like this is worse than her PA from 5 yrs ago. All the trust I've put back in her...

I warned her about facebook and sure enough I started getting concerned about this guy she was talking to so I keylogged pc. She was openly suggesting to me that her and our daughter go on vacation to the country(she has another female friend stationed there) and then I find out the truth why.

Not even sure why I'm posting this. I don't think I can rebuild the trust again, not sure it's worth it. Don't want to wake up in my 50's in ten years and have this happen again.

She obviously has no boundaries and has not learned her lesson. I am so sorry.

That's another thing that drives me crazy about this. I learned my boundries(I'm a FWH) and thought she saw that. I spent two years changing and showing the change of meeting her EN and thought she was doing the same. I actually thought our marriage was better than ever.

I can't believe she fooled me so. And now she is downplaying that it wasn't PA only EA after she threw fits over my EA.

I just wish I could get in a car and drive away from her forever without any warning, just go.

You do realize it's not up to you to rebuild the trust again, right? It's up to HER to earn back your trust. The written word is a funny thing, maybe you meant you don't know that you can put in all the hard work again necessary for recovering the marriage.

She clearly has not learned about Extraordinary Precautions. She's crossed a great many lines to get to the point where she is. She had many opportunities to STOP this from becoming an EA, but she did not.

Do you have children? If not, I'd run, not walk.
If you do, I'd see an attorney that specializes in Father's rights and protect your custodial stance. Then file for separation or divorce.

If you entertain the idea of reconciliation, be sure you make HER take the lead. Set the bar HIGH. Make her OWN the recovery of the marriage.

I am so sorry you're going through this a second time; that's everyone's worst nightmare I think.