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Re: Well, she's cheating on me (I'm 26)
imagine #2236914 03/29/09 11:21 PM
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agreed to sell our house and split our equity 50/50 when it reaches the price we paid for it again.

Just how long do you suppose that will be?? I am hearing many years 5-10 from the news. Who gets to stay at the house?
Re: Well, she's cheating on me (I'm 26)
imagine #2245948 04/15/09 01:38 AM
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Originally Posted by imagine
Thank you for the update.

The new girlfriend seems a very quick decision. One needs to properly grieve for xWW. If she is legitimate as your next wife, please get an ACCURATE reason for her divorce.

We want the best for you and her!

Good, sound advice, and well-taken.

For the record: I have known my current girlfriend since I was 14 from my hometown in northern CA but life took us in different directions. Trust me, I've taken it very slow and she knows 100% about where I'm at emotionally. I am still grieving in many ways for my xWW, though I am much better than I was before.

I won't be getting married again. Fool me once....

(especially with CA divorce laws favoring women regardless of immoral circumstances - I was EXTREMELY lucky to come away with 50% of assets -- due to remaining diplomatic with WW!)

Anyway. I don't really check this site anymore because I'm pretty busy LIVING my life and working towards creating the life that I want. I've learned and rebuilt connections with my wonderful friends and family. They are all so supportive and wonderful.

I will never forget how much many of you helped me. Thank you so much.. God bless.

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WW (Now XW)
Married 4 years, No children.
EA/PA from 2/2008 to 5/2008.
DDay: 5/17/2008 - Separated 6/1/2008 - Filed 8/3/2008
Divorce final 3/2009.

Now in a committed relationship with a woman of character who loves me so much better and deeper than I ever dreamed possible. I had no idea what I was missing out on and am so grateful God gave me a free "second chance" at love and life.
Re: Well, she's cheating on me (I'm 26)
InLikeFlynn #2245949 04/15/09 01:43 AM
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Originally Posted by InLikeFlynn
agreed to sell our house and split our equity 50/50 when it reaches the price we paid for it again.

Just how long do you suppose that will be?? I am hearing many years 5-10 from the news. Who gets to stay at the house?

It's become a joke among my family... I have pretty much written off seeing any of that money within the next 15 years. Especially in CA. But that's okay because guess what? I've learned that life is NOT about money, or trying to achieve materialistic goals to keep up with the Joneses.

xWW is living in the house and renting out the two extra bedrooms. (Works great for me since my plan is to get out of this dusty little town and back to my family and friends in NorCal). We retain joint ownership (50/50) but she is legally solely responsible for all mortgage payments until it reaches market value, as well as for any repairs under $1000 (if anything happens over $1000 we split repairs ONLY WITH my consent).

I got a really good deal... I am so grateful.

Formerly ConfuzedHusband
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WW (Now XW)
Married 4 years, No children.
EA/PA from 2/2008 to 5/2008.
DDay: 5/17/2008 - Separated 6/1/2008 - Filed 8/3/2008
Divorce final 3/2009.

Now in a committed relationship with a woman of character who loves me so much better and deeper than I ever dreamed possible. I had no idea what I was missing out on and am so grateful God gave me a free "second chance" at love and life.
Re: Well, she's cheating on me (I'm 26)
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I'm so happy for you. Best of luck.
Re: Well, she's cheating on me (I'm 26)
Arpeggi #2246384 04/15/09 03:49 PM
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Originally Posted by ConfuzedHusband
I won't be getting married again. Fool me once....

You were not the fool... she was!

But I, being poor, have only my dreams; I have spread my dreams under your feet; Tread softly because you tread on my dreams -Yeats
Re: Well, she's cheating on me (I'm 26)
imagine #2252506 04/27/09 09:17 PM
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Originally Posted by imagine
You were not the fool... she was!

Exactly!!! I swore I'd never get married again either. But with the right woman that all goes out the window!

Best of luck - you deserve it!

Plan D June 08
Me FBS 36
W 38
Married 13/1/09
The best is yet to come, with or without your WS
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