Long story short.....This is the 3rd time that she has cheated...each time i gave in for one reason or another but mainly the kids...WW is a definate cake eater. Im done and cant take it anymore. Its unhealthy for my kids to be in this situation and its unhealthy for me.

Wife hasnt worked in 14 years and doesnt plan on working either. She is living in our house (sep bedrooms) and carrying on with her EA. Shes constantly on the phone and basically ignores the childrens needs.


I cant throw her out. Legally i dont have any leg to stand on. If I file for a D then i will more than likly have to pay for her attorney as well. She is an Alcholoic that doesnt see her problem. I have read all the materials and i have no desire to contiue to have a marriage with her.

I can never trust her again. She does nothing but lie nad has continously done so for a long time.

My desire is to get custody becuase i dont trust her with the children. I will never keep the kids from her as i think all children need both parents in their lives.

how is it fair that i am the only parent that is thinking clearly and i have to pay (monetraly as well) for all her mistakes. I have to pay for both attorneys. I have to pay allimony.

How is it that the legal system is fair towards a father? i dont see it.

Once a cheater... Sad but true.

If you could PROVE that she is an adulterous alcoholic I think you would get the kids and the house. But I'm not a lawyer.

Whoever gets custody of the kids gets the better deal because they have to care for the kids so they get the home and child support.

If you can get her on camera stumbling around drunk at home then I don't see how she could possibly get custody.

Imdone,
Sorry you're here. I thought the legal issue varies depending on what state you live in. If your WW is an alcoholic and unfit mother - I would think you have a good chance of custody. I know there are lawyers that post here that could probably give you better advice.

GG

Imdone, have you sought legal advice in your state? Can your lawyer help you create circumstances that will be most favorable to you? Do you have any aces, like emails or letters from/to OM? Incidents of when she was visibly drunk and couldn't care for the children?

At some point, we all have to decide how much we're willing to pay for finanicial security/well-being. Some people honestly find themselves in a situation where if they divorce, they can't provide a roof or food. Short of this, you need to consider what you're willing to put up with in order to save money. At some point, we are all willing to pay alimony or give all our worldly possessions in order to get out of the marriage. Know where your boundaries are.

Also, if you've already had legal advice, you may want to get a second opinion. The law is very subjective, at least in the way divorce lawyers approach issues.

Thanks for your help

I think I need to get another opinion. I'm in Florida

I'm the only sane parent and I'm the one that has to pay. In more ways than one.