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OK, I am a suspicious sort. I admit it.
I have relatively new neighbors. They bought a foreclosure three houses up a year ago. I thought when I first met them there was something maritally unsavory about them. He is mid to late 30’s. She is very early 20’s. They acted constrained around each other. He seemed suspicious of me and other neighbors when we talked to his wife. She seemed selfish and self absorbed. More so than a typical 20 something woman.
They looked like an affair marriage to me from the moment I first met them. They did.
I now and will for the rest of my life immediately size up everyone I meet for their adulterous potential. Are they? Have they? Will they? No matter. This couple definitely smelled adulterous to me.
They married two months after moving in.
They started fighting, loudly, six months after that.
She moved out, somewhere far away, two weeks ago.
OK, I am heartless [censored]. I can live with it.
He came over to cry on my shoulder last weekend. Drinking too much. Admitted he left his first wife and children for her after a year-long adultery. His first wife no longer wants him back. I told him I could not help him. I told him I did not want to hear it. I will not send him here either. I sent him home, politely. Gritting my teeth.
OK, I am mean, biased and prejudiced. Deal with it.
I thoroughly despise affair marriages. I do not care what MB or Dr H or anyone on this site thinks about them or if they feel compassion for those involved in them; nor do I care whether anyone here tries to help them. But I totally and unwaveringly believe affair marriages are an affront to the sacrament and the institution of marriage. Their existence is a trigger to me. I will never help one no how, no way.
I don’t care what anyone else thinks about my opinion in this matter.
Adulterous marriages can all go south. The sooner the better. As almost all do.
I do not want one anywhere near me.
Ah, that helped…
"Never forget that your pain means nothing to a WS." ~Mulan
"An ethical man knows it is wrong to cheat on his wife. A moral man will not actually do it." ~ Ducky
WS: They are who they are.
When an eel lunges out And it bites off your snout Thats a moray ~DS
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I with you on this, Appy. Sorry you had to face that trigger.
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me: FWW/BS 52 H: FWH/BS 49 DS 30 DD 21 DS 15 OCDS 8
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Well, what more can be said - there you have it!
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Forrest Gump isn't heartless.
BW - me exWH - serial cheater 2 awesome kids Divorced 12/2011
Many a good man has failed because he had a wishbone where his backbone should have been.
We gain strength, and courage, and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face... we must do that which we think we cannot. --------Eleanor Roosevelt
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100% agree with you about affairages...
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I now and will for the rest of my life immediately size up everyone I meet for their adulterous potential. Are they? Have they? Will they? Everyone needs a hobby.
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I now and will for the rest of my life immediately size up everyone I meet for their adulterous potential. Are they? Have they? Will they? Everyone needs a hobby.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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My cousin and I were taking bets tonight on how long her ex H's affair relationship will last. They're not married yet but they're talking about it. I predict they don't ever get as far as a wedding before they break up.
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There's another one that fits the stats....
BS - me 56 XWH - 57
12/25/06 - Dday - WH promised NC. Plan A in effect. Thought we were in recovery.
6-3-07 - Dday#2 Found out NC never took place and A never ended. Found MB NC promised again, but WH would not write NC letter.
9/07 - Dday #3. Still lying and sneaking around. Plan B implemented WH wants nothing to do with me
Divorced as of 12/09 after 36 years
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My FWH's OW is in an affairage with her H. She broke up his first M, then had an A with his best friend weeks before the wedding. He still married her, but began his ONS's soon after the M as revenge.
When she finds out about his ONS's she has A's (many). They are violent with each other, both drink way too much and live the most destructive life I have ever witnessed.
The devastation they cause has to be seen to be believed, and all this has come from their initial decision to begin their A with each other.
Nothing good can ever come from an A.
I also found out that his first wife is the loveliest person you could want to meet, and went on to remarry a really nice man and have 2 children and is now very happy. Her revenge is living a good life while the 2 people who at one time ruined her life live in a hell of their own making.
Me - BW FWH - BB -(PA Jul 08 - Aug 08) D-Day - 8 Aug 2008 Recovering nicely
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So yesterday, now she is out of the house, he took the puppy she just had to have to the pound.
They have run out of human children to harm. They are moving to pets.
‘course, they don’t believe they harm anyone or any thing. It is love. Was. Once.
Stupids.
All adulterers are incurable stupids.
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"An ethical man knows it is wrong to cheat on his wife. A moral man will not actually do it." ~ Ducky
WS: They are who they are.
When an eel lunges out And it bites off your snout Thats a moray ~DS
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Actually, I made brownies. Then DS and I ate (large) still warm brownie sundaes with chocolate raspberry sauce.
"Never forget that your pain means nothing to a WS." ~Mulan
"An ethical man knows it is wrong to cheat on his wife. A moral man will not actually do it." ~ Ducky
WS: They are who they are.
When an eel lunges out And it bites off your snout Thats a moray ~DS
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All adulterers are incurable stupids. If you believe this, why do you continue to come to a MARRIAGE BUILDING site dedicated to rebuilding marriages after infidelity. I realize YOUR WS may be an incurable stupid, but mine is not. And it appears from this site that there are several others who are not as well....Mrs. W, Lala, Pep's H, Mel's H, and on and on. I realize you are hurting, but please quit insulting our FW board members.
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Hmm, telling me what I can think, huh? Ordering what I can and cannot post are you?
They are all incurably stupid. My opine.
So report me to the mods. Get me banned.
Put me on ignore.
Or go away.
"Never forget that your pain means nothing to a WS." ~Mulan
"An ethical man knows it is wrong to cheat on his wife. A moral man will not actually do it." ~ Ducky
WS: They are who they are.
When an eel lunges out And it bites off your snout Thats a moray ~DS
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Oh Appy.
I'm sorry those heartless twits offended you and triggered you.
I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?O'hana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten. My Story Recovered!
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All adulterers are incurable stupids. Wow... I'm not familiar with your story but I am curious...Are you still married?
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Aph, you need to get out of that marriage, away from the monster you married before this crap destroys you. Yes, the remorseless, disordered , power droids like your wife may be stupid, although evil is probably a better way to look at it. I really think there is something fundamentally different about the remorselss a-hole tyopes and some of the other cheaters. They are all messed up, but some can get better.
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All adulterers are incurable stupids. I realize YOUR WS may be an incurable stupid, but mine is not. And it appears from this site that there are several others who are not as well....Mrs. W, Lala, Pep's H, Mel's H, and on and on. I realize you are hurting, but please quit insulting our FW board members. I notice that you've excluded yourself from the FW list
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All adulterers are incurable stupids. I realize YOUR WS may be an incurable stupid, but mine is not. And it appears from this site that there are several others who are not as well....Mrs. W, Lala, Pep's H, Mel's H, and on and on. I realize you are hurting, but please quit insulting our FW board members. I notice that you've excluded yourself from the FW list Are you talking to SMB, who is a BS? :crosseyedcrazy:
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