ITA

Just make sure if you go against MB doctrine you sugarcoat it with some teenage humor and you'll be ok.

Can't we all just fight about something like spandex ('eh, Iam) and all get along?

What Mike wanted was advice and to vent-- the BEST thing about the MB website.

The worst thing Mike did was to take the venting/obsession with the OM way too far and, apparently, smothe the guy.

If we as a collective group did anything to encourage this tsunami, (yeah, I know Mike did his own action-- not us)
I mean, even tho he is funny as heck, -- we should have not tee hee'd the projected violence.

NOW there were quite a few posters ,pep and other I remember, who pointed this out at the time.

Maybe we as a community should -- well I guess I can't say.
What does the H's think about ranting/obsessing against OM, OW or spouse of OM,OW?

I don't remember anything specific.

good day all,
Mike I hope this is you, I hope you are O.K.

What Mike did wrong was to abuse the OMW or did we all forget that?

Or maybe it was OK because he told a good joke?

The reality here is that Mike loves his wife, doesn't want to lose her and is going to do anything to keep her.

GG

I didn't forget!

He has a wayward entitled attitude, and I told him as much on the thread that disappeared. Doesn't care who he hurts as long as he gets even.

I still think he has been a WH at some point! Either an EA or a PA? Has too much of the wayward personality that stands out to me.

I've read Mike's posts for a long, long, time. He gives the impression of being a "Slapnuts"(an old poster) with a sharp wit and sense of humor.

What appears to have happened was, by analogy, he purchased a Lamborghini when he was young. It was a sexy and exciting car and served its purpose, which was to impress all those around him as to how smart, exciting and sexy *he* was.

Now he's older and some of his interests have changed, so he's been trying to figure out how to change the Lamborghini into a Jeep CJ-7 when it suits his purposes.

Bottom line is, he got what he got when he bought the Lamborghini and if his primary interest is now "off-roading" he needs to trade for a Jeep or just accept the fact his sports car won't be doing Moab.

He doesn't want to sell or trade the Lamborghini because he can't stand the idea of anyone else driving it. He also despises the car because it won't do what he wants.

In plain terms, he married for one set of reasons with a given set of requirements in potential "Mrs. Mikes". Over the years, his requirements have changed and he has spent hours with MB and other resources trying to *change* his wife into what he now wants her to be. His implementation of MB principles appears to have been a method not to change himself, but to change his wife, ONLY.

Women who do this to men aren't sympathized with. Why the double standard?

As a FBH, I would say that though he bears absolutely no blame for his wife's choosing to be unfaithful, he is as responsible as anyone I've seen for creating an environment conducive to the development of an affair.

Well said HP!

Great analogy HP.

Let's get back to marriage building, please.