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#2262787 05/18/09 05:26 AM
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frannyb Offline OP
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Hello all, have no idea how to do this so please excuse me! I've been married almost ten yrs to ws and have had reason to believe on two or three occasions he's had an affair. This time I caught him out, spoke to his ow, who resides interstate and claims they had sex only once. WS was on a work trip, went out with his single workmates, got drunk, told OW straight up he was separated but living in separate rooms under same roof. Had sex that night (can I say that? Too bad) left her to go to work then called OW next day for more. OW couldn't help out but they continued txting ea other for next 3 months. I found out when his cell rang late and he was asleep, one thing led to another and I eventually spoke to OW within about ten mins. She was very helpful to me and appears to be a decent person who was taken for whatever she had to offer. WS denied the sex part but confirmed all other things OW had told me, so go figure. Then I find out that WS had been to a counsellor 4 wks prior to me finding out about his infidelity, and was advised to stop. He didn't. He gave OW the impression he was very interested in her and even spoke about meeting up with her again. WS wont admit he was emotionally involved, he said that she 'made me feel nice, being able to speak with her without her knowing anything about me or my past!' Am in limbo, want out but for some reason can't/won't. WS also physically attacked me when first confronted, trying to get his cell as it had OW's number, had me in a frightening headlock and dragged me back to our room. Dont know what elso to say, if this is wrong so please feel free to guide me in right direction. Am feeling raging emotions, alone, terribly frightened and totally totally betrayed.

bs 38yrs ws 40yrs married 10yrs; daughter 10yrs (ours); 2 children (bs); 2 children (ws)
Joined: Jun 2008
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Joined: Jun 2008
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He is a serial cheater, violent and clearly no boundaries.

Do you want to stay with this man?

But I, being poor, have only my dreams; I have spread my dreams under your feet; Tread softly because you tread on my dreams -Yeats

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