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I feel like giving up 1yr 8mths help me pls
#2263834 05/19/09 04:40 PM
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my huband has a serious problem gambling i am so fed up with having to keep the house in order i am lacking love and really need him to be a man I never knew of the problem before it is really putting a strain on me.We argue about evrything and nothing really seems to begoing right i want to give up helpme
Re: I feel like giving up 1yr 8mths help me pls
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Gambling addiction is a real disorder that a spouse cannot control or anticipate. Are the two of you, or him, or you by yourself seeing a therapist/counselor?

Me - BW/BS Age: 56 Married 7 1/2 years Divorced Jan 2010
EA began '07 PA began Jan '08
Found out July 2008 Found MB September
Plan A 09/03/2008
I filed D 10/31/2008
Dark Plan B began 11/09/2008
Emerged from Plan B 11/15/2009
Court date (final) scheduled for 12/16/2009
Divorce Final January 2010
Plan B recommenced upon Divorce
Re: I feel like giving up 1yr 8mths help me pls
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SIFME,
If your H has a serious gambling problem then it is going to be difficult to deal with working on a relationship. You need to work on the gambling problem first.

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Of course, other problems can be very difficult to solve, involving many steps. Learning how to meet each other's emotional needs, for example, can require quite a bit of trial and error, along with the time and energy it takes to create the habits that eventually make meeting a need almost effortless. If one of you struggles with an addiction, you will find that the Policy of Joint Agreement simply cannot be followed at all until you have overcome the addiction. Whether it's drugs, alcohol, sex, gambling, or any other addiction, you will find that thoughtfulness is almost impossible to practice as long as you are addicted. You must sweep the addiction completely out of your life before you will be able to negotiate in the way I have suggested. http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi3350_guide.html


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D-Day #1 Aug/2007.
D-Day #2 1/27/12
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