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The OW has been pestering my H to move down to Kansas, from Washington State. He obviously wanted to go, but the kids are with me. He told his mom on Monday that he as planning on going. She yelled at him til no tomorrow. He now says he isn't going to go and got in a big fight with OW over not moving to be with her. I don't know whether to be hopeful over this. I know he's only staying for the children, but....I also don't want to let down my guard, when I know at this point, he could easily change his mind with a single word from OW. I'm afraid also if she does move up here. Could I face her? He doesn't even consider my feelings any more, only hers.
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Joined: Jul 1999
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Does that just irk you when OW can sway them so easily....!!!<P>I know my H has been tempted to move up across the boarder to OW (we live in the same state you and me), because she just moved as close as she can be.. This "right across the boarder" thing gets me... If you read my "OW may win by default," you'll understand...<P>Anyway, it seems that she has more manipulative power than anyone over H's mind, much less H's emotions, and I cant understand how H doesn't see how much he is prodded into decisions...<P>How did your H meet his "out of state" OW?<P>cozy
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If you'll read my profile it tells, but briefly he met her when she was the girlfriend of his lesbian friend. His friend was being verbally abusive towards her and he was being a "friend" and counseling her on how to proceed. Guess she wasn't a whole-hearted lesbian. She moved out of state when he told her he wasn't going to move in with her up in our state. She has manipulated him now so much that not only does he want to move in with her, he is willing to move to Kansas to be with her.
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Joined: Oct 1999
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I let my guard down last year after I thought affair was over. The OW moved to our town. I don't think the affair ever took a break. If he stays you must not let your guard down. I thought I was safe since she lived so far away, but your never safe until he commits totally to you again. Good Luck!
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