A few months ago I was perusing my husband's email and found his link to an adult dating site. I confronted him, he explained it away and deleted the account. I took it as face value and went on trying to fill his EN. Last week I found multiple links to multiple porn sites and multiple dating sites, one of which is specifically directed toward married people looking for an affair. He travels for business and has searched for two women in the area he travels to. I also have some shaky evidence that he may have contacted these women online. He has also recently signed up for a new email account about which he told me nothing and I strongly suspect he is using that account to communicate with these women. Last time this happened, he was also checking the profiles of women in the area he travels to and one where he used to work. My question is how and when to expose my knowledge to him? How can I ask about it without him becoming defensive so he'll just talk to me?

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What your husband is doing is wrong. It definitely needs to be dealt with.