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the A was EA or PA.
After reading several threads about EA's and BS's not knowing if it went to PA and believing that it had. Some people say that they are in recovery.
How can a marriage recover if there was a PA and the WS doesn't admit it?
Can a marriage truly recover?
Won't the secret ultimately block real intimacy in a marriage without the whole truth being revealed?
How long should a spouse be willing to wait for that truth??
What makes you believe that the EA was a PA without evidence??
How can a spouse ever get to that point of knowing that it wasn' a PA or get their spouse to admit that it was a PA??
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How can a marriage recover if there was a PA and the WS doesn't admit it? IT CAN'T
Can a marriage truly recover? NOPE, RADICAL HONESTY.
Won't the secret ultimately block real intimacy in a marriage without the whole truth being revealed? Of course
How long should a spouse be willing to wait for that truth?? 5 Minutes
What makes you believe that the EA was a PA without evidence?? Your gut is normally right.
How can a spouse ever get to that point of knowing that it wasn' a PA or get their spouse to admit that it was a PA?? That would be the a$$kick...DUDE
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Some BSs have had success in getting the truth by insisting on a polygraph. I have read severalstories where ,as the day for the test approached, they either got the truth or their formerly willing WS began to come up with rationalizations/excuses for not going forward with the testing. If that happens, you have your answer, as well.
I cannot imagine a truthful, remorseful WS balking at the chance to prove he or she is telling the truth. The polygraph gives them this opportunity.
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