I have been talking with MIL this last few weeks, and they have been putting pressure on H to finally get a job and help out around the house. They are becoming a little resentful (been here, done that)concerning his "living in the puter world" (I believe its one of his escapes) and doing NOTHING else..<P>She has been mentioning to him each day that he needs to be looking for work, and its getting to him.... H knows this was one of my conditions to reconcilliation also, that he become a contributing part of our family..<P>So what choice does H have.... The OW will take him anyway she can get him... She has even stated that she will work and let H sit home all day... ICK <P>One day she will get resentfull too, but how long is that going to take, and how insecure of a person is she to do this? I think H has her convinced that his panic attacks will always make him inable to hold a job...<P>Somedays I think.... Gee I'm tired of this man/child H of mine... She can have him and all the games...<P>cozy <I don't want to play anymore>

Are you married to my H? Sounds like it. After the discovery of his affair, H moved in with his parents. His parents are VERY disapproving of what he did and let him know daily. Does your H respect his parents opinions? If he does, their words may hold alot of weight. My MIL was able to get my H from moving away from his kids to the OW simply by motherly guilt. Might be worth a try.

Wishful thinking....<P>MIL allows OW/OC to come and stay on the weekends... I think MIL is just as impatient for him to "Make up his mind", and she said that she would be supportive of whatever, who-ever he chose...<P>She won't have holidays at her home this year, so that she doesn't have to invite the wrong persons... Yikes this gets weirder all the time...