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The sheriff just got there to talk to her and the kids.
Basically, her oldest has been getting worse and worse, cussing his teacher, refusing to do anything for school, refusing to participate in therapy, then even refusing to go to therapy and running off so she couldn't drag him along. Monday he ran away but came back shortly before the storm blew in. It's just been one thing after another.
Even with all that, and talking (this week alone) to the teacher, school administrator, therapist, old social worker from when the kids were still fostering, CPS twice and the sheriff's dpt a whole bunch of times, nothing was enough for them to do anything.
So today he refused to go to church and she stayed home the first half of the day. He also refused to get in the car and go up to the church for the social and party and stuff, so finally she left, house locked up tight and a sleeping bag and food left for him. He was out running the neighborhood.
When she came home he had locked her out of the house and left a knife on the front porch.
So at last, at long long last, a deputy is there to talk to her about it. If that's not enough to 5150 him I'm going to be furious. So I'll let you know when I hear back from her.
A smooth sea never made a skilled mariner. ~ English proverb
They did not 5150 him. It "wasn't enough". They took a report and filed him as an unruly minor. It sounds as if he'll have to go on probation.
It's not enough. It's nowhere near enough to make an impression on him the way he is right now. They just don't get it.
Hooray for another triumph of the system.
Thanks be to God that He's not limited by career bureaucrats and impotent officialdom. The system has totally let Neaksis down. He hasn't, and He never sleeps.
A smooth sea never made a skilled mariner. ~ English proverb
I could just not believe that Neak. That boy NEEDS that kind of penalty because nothing else seems to get his attention when he's RADing. It is not helping him at all by letting him off. I bet they think they are 'helping' him and being 'understanding'.... sneaking suspicion says too hard to deal with attitude.
But if I hadn't had it all explained to me I suppose I would think like those other public servants. I have spent years lernin' the public service...... Never make a decision if you can avoid it .... if you can't... get someone else to sign off on it .... if you cant do that... leave so many if's buts and howevers that no one really understands what you have said.
But seriously it was not a good decision... do they want a another young troubled young man involved in trouble making???? He needs real help and sometimes its going to be tough love help.
But as I am sure Neaksis would say ...its in Gods hands.
Of course it would be nice if we got a its ok I'm working on it from the man above wouldn't it?
Feel a bit like treading water here right now... making sure no one sinks below the surface. But Mikey is happy and keeps me wayyyyyyyyyyy too busy to think too much. Its only 7.20pm and he's asleep... daylight still outside.
Shhhhhhhhhhhh don't make any loud noises.
Hope all are doing well and that Halloween was not too traumatic with all those darlings high on sugar
Life may feel as if you are constantly getting kicked on a daily basis, living is about picking yourself up each day and going on and on and on regardless.
A quick update on Neaksis: she has become involved in a shacking up of convenience. A male friend of the family (much older than she is) has moved in with her for a few days to keep the violence levels down. It has worked well - DS15 simmered down and accessed a functioning level of fakeness while he's there. He has to leave tomorrow, and Mom won't be home yet, so please continue in prayer anyway. It has given Neaksis a much-needed respite, even if she's caught quite a bit of good-natured teasing from us.
The Dervish just walked past me carrying a drawer of legos. "What are you doing with that, Dervish?"
"I'm going to make something magical while I go to the bathroom."
A smooth sea never made a skilled mariner. ~ English proverb
This is tl-too lazy to log out and log back in as myself. He's not THAT much older than she is, which could be why we haven't put an announcement about it in the church paper. He is WAY older than the RADdish, however, and considerably bigger. It's amazing how compliant a kid can be when he's outweighed, outgunned, and outmaneuvered! No, RADdish, don't thank me. Really! Setting this up to help out your wonderful mom was all your dear granny's extreme pleasure.
tl
A smooth sea never made a skilled mariner. ~ English proverb
I THOUGHT I bought the farm once, but as it turned out, I just bought a lengthy hospital stay. Not sure which is best.
Mom is on her way to the house where she will be staying until she comes home again.
That's kind of like saying "It will last until it runs out." Or "I'm always happy unless I'm not."
I mean....... shucks.......... why is she staying there? How come she's not home NOW? Where does Mozart figure into this? What does the dervish think about virtual private networks?
Why doesn't anyone ever tell me anything useful?
SS
I think sometimes about all the pain in the world. I hope we can ease that here, even if only a little bit.
Sorry FF, I only thought about it on the way home. I barely thought to email 2long the night before I left. Turns out he lives about 1.3 miles from where I was staying. About 5 minutes if you don't get lost. (it took me 20, and yes, I got lost.)
I was (like many men) concentrating on the task at hand. My W always said I had a one track mind. That's why I don't talk on the phone while I drive. <grin>
Maybe we can put together a group lunch, dinner or something next time I am there. You want to coordinate it?
And of course, I want to know how you are. Good? Bad? In between?
SS
I think sometimes about all the pain in the world. I hope we can ease that here, even if only a little bit.
Because her home is here now, and that other place is just marking time till she gets to her real home. (Warning: the views expressed in this program may not be the views of tl.)
In its favor, the house where she is still staying in CA, is warmer and has no access for pigeons to get in and leave their castings all over the upstairs. Hey, it's a starter home, and the pigeons started there first.
Dad still has never actually said that he's moving here. Now that he's bought a house, he still doesn't have to say anything. That is the German way.
A smooth sea never made a skilled mariner. ~ English proverb