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Here goes...H had an affair .. OW call to tell me she was pregnant... during the pregnancy H had NC and we decided to stay together maintaining NC with OW.. now that the child is here this sent H into a tail spin. now he is not sure if he can do the NC with the OC and I want nothing to do with it. How do we find our way.. the marriage is in a state of confusion once again and the OW is contacting H about his intentions.. I need some imput... help me please...
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If OW is contacting H about his intentions, then by definition, NC has already been broken.
Me:BW, FWH 1DD 1DS
Status: Chronicled in Dr. Suess's "The Zax"
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Have you had a paternity test done?
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I know that it has... I guess it was never really explanied to her... H just did not talk to her and she stopped trying to reach him while she was pregnant... we deceide thatH would have NC.. now I know that it has to b told to OW that is the way is sgoing to be. but the issue is WH.. he is having a difficult time with the NC with the OC.
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not yet, the OC has just arrived...
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This is a huge issue and it has to be POJA'd. If you're not sure what that means, read up on policy of joint agreement here on the site. You'll need help. I'd suggest a few sessions with the Harleys to get through this. Much cheaper than a divorce. Get on it now before the AOs (angry outbursts) start flying. Good luck.
Me:BW, FWH 1DD 1DS
Status: Chronicled in Dr. Suess's "The Zax"
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Broken,
You and your husband read my story.
Continued contact like he's having now leads to another OC.
Read everything here that you can, then read it again for good measure.
I'm here for you.
- Kimmy
I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?O'hana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten. My Story Recovered!
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