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As some of you know, I'm about to retire.

Last week, a woman I've occasionally worked with and gone to conferences with said to me:

Her: Ask me what's new!!! (excited)

Me: OK. What's new with you?

Her: I'm getting a divorce! (still excited)

Me: Oh. (dumbfounded) I'm sorry.

Her: I want this divorce. I left my husband 2 weeks ago. Got my own apartment and then I got a boyfriend. (VERY excited)

Background ... she's been married >30 years. Her H is about 20 years older. She's now in her 50's and he's in his 70's.

Me: Oh.

Her: Want to see his picture?

Me: OK.

Her: This is him !(beyond excited - giddy)

She presents her iPhone and shows me a photo of a topless oily chested much younger man who looks like he's posing for head-shots to get an acting job.

Me: (in an unguarded moment) You're kidding, right?

Her: No. This is my new boyfriend. (proudly)

Me: Your husband must be devastated.

Her: (looking confused) Yes, he is.

Me: (no response)

Her: I tried for years to get him to change and he never did, so I finally left him.

Me: Well, I guess you've got his attention now.

Her: I'm so happy I left him.

Me: Well, I've got to go. Good luck to you. (We were in the middle of the H1N1 shot clinic and there were nurses and patients everywhere)

I'm sure she was more than a little disappointed in my reaction. (I was her mentor when she was hired)
She is a walking-talking head-up-her-butt wayward - and the dopamine has transformed her into an alien with no heart.

I probably won't hear from her again.
My co-workers threw me a surprise retirement party two days after this conversation - and this woman was a no-show although she'd already RSVP'd a "yes" and paid for her meal.

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people are sick

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I'm people

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Well I guess I should clarify - SOME people are sick!

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Originally Posted by claygal
Well I guess I should clarify - SOME people are sick!

No argument from me ! uhuh

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How grooty. Hope this pig-women gets dumped.

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Originally Posted by Zelmo
How grooty. Hope this pig-women gets dumped.

Her time will come.
It's so interesting to see such a dramatic change in her, from a reasonable & caring person to this cold-hearted alien.
Adultery certainly creates some powerfully addictive brain chemicals. Stupidity is a bonus of adultery.


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Stupidity is a bonus of adultery.

I love this !!!! Its soooooo true.... laugh


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divorced 2006
3 kids
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remarried and very happy
exwh married OW and now is very unhappy
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Another post supporting do not marry someone when the age difference is great, such as twenty years.

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Originally Posted by TheRoad
Another post supporting do not marry someone when the age difference is great, such as twenty years.

No argument from me uhuh

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Originally Posted by Pepperband
I'm people

rotflmao Okay, I read this whole thread and still cant stop laughing at this, Pep youre funny.. rotflmao


BW me-41
WH -39
DS - 9
married 12 Yrs together(?) 18 yrs when A discovered
DDay aug 2007
found MB dec 2007
Moved out april 2008
still seeing OW
Plan B

Okay I fixed the ages, it was looking screwy. smile
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Originally Posted by stillhere8126
Pep youre funny.. rotflmao

No argument from me uhuh

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The description of this conversation makes me think of a sci-fi movie. I imagine a strange looking, slimy, pasty-faced alien popping out from the top of this woman's neck.

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BW - 70
WH - 65
M - 35 years
D-day - 17 Apr 08
H broke contact 11/1/09
Back in love after the worst thing that every happened to us.
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Idiocy. Let's hope your reaction shone a little iight into her cranium, and shifted her POV.


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Blech. So she ruins her BH's life, and then has the sense not to show up at your dinner?

(PS I don't think she's people. Not right now.)


A smooth sea never made a skilled mariner.
~ English proverb



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This married woman in her 50s has a much younger, oiled-up "boyfriend" who is probably un-employed/under-employed from the sound of it. Hmmm, I wonder if she:
Buys him things
Pays his rent
Does his laundry
Cooks for him
"Satisfies" him (temporarily)
Is one of many or at least one in a line...

She doesn't have a partner; she has a parasite. Gee, I wonder where this "romance" is heading???
puke


xWW:
Secret LTA w/ thrice married OM at her workplace; EA/PA starts ~ 2005-6
Files & completes D - 2007, OM/OMW#3 D - 2007, Affairage - immediately thereafter
Disappears in 2006 w/o even a goodbye to anyone, Never a paragraph of real truth ever spoken
Me/xBH:
M "for life", Suspicions (denied) & desperate Plan A latter-half '06
1st D-day 1/07, full truth D-day 7/08 (all via 3rd parties)
NC w/ xWW 8/08-date, better off w/o unrepentant vileness, betrayal, & rampant deceit in my life anymore
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She's cougar and on the prowl! Is he the tennis instructor, fitness instructor, pool boy, or riding instructor? The world is full of folks like him who think nothing of destroying a happy family because they are too lazy / pathetic to take care of themselves.


Me BH 49 WXW 50
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DS 2002
DD 2005
D Day 1 7/28/08
D Day 2 8/19/08

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Originally Posted by Pepperband
I probably won't hear from her again.
My co-workers threw me a surprise retirement party two days after this conversation - and this woman was a no-show although she'd already RSVP'd a "yes" and paid for her meal.
Nope, you prolly won't, not that it's a bad thing.

Friends of ours were in the process of separating, the W who I'm 99% sure was a WW, made it very clear to everyone that she
only wanted to be around positive people, she would not allow herself to be around negativity. (her words)
We had a chat one afternoon ...... she's not called me since. sigh

Welcome to the 'Negativity Club' Pepperband MrRollieEyes


M'd 22 years
BW-me
D-Day 08/08 LTA


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Pepper, You are retiring? Mazel Tov.. that's so awesome. What are your plans?


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Plan A 9 months, DARK Plan B 3-17-08 until 3-2-09
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Pep,

Just a question, does this woman and her H have children together? If so how old? I am hoping they do and he will at least have some family around him in his old age, although 70 doesn't seem very old to me wink

JL

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