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Really? R u serious?? WTF why risk marriage unless its for someone extraordinary?? why hasnt anyone told me about this before lol?? I was brought up to think men went off with younger prettier models and women went off with buff handome male adonis. We need to spread the word. Married people watch out for the ugly ones!!!!!!!
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WS 38
Married: 2000
DD1November 22 2008 - DD2 October 2014
PA Duration September 08 - November 08
Second discovery- 6 online affairs 4 sexual one emotional. October 2014.kids: DS 17, DS 14, DS 12, DS 10 . Baby after divorce DS 18months
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Was misled into thinking we were in recovery for 6 years.
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Really? R u serious?? WTF why risk marriage unless its for someone extraordinary?? why hasnt anyone told me about this before lol?? I was brought up to think men went off with younger prettier models and women went off with buff handome male adonis. We need to spread the word. Married people watch out for the ugly ones!!!!!!! edit ...DUDE
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Worst part is the womans' photo features her child, who has been blocked out of the web pic, but I would presume it was attached to the original distribution. SAD.
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Thanks for the enlightenment DUDE, starting to feel like i have lived a somewhat sheltered life lol. Ugly marriage wreckers im onto you now!
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Married: 2000
DD1November 22 2008 - DD2 October 2014
PA Duration September 08 - November 08
Second discovery- 6 online affairs 4 sexual one emotional. October 2014.kids: DS 17, DS 14, DS 12, DS 10 . Baby after divorce DS 18months
Divorced
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First of all, while the guy was not particularly attractive to me and the woman didn't seem to have any outstanding features, I wouldn't call either one of them ugly/xxxx or anything similar. Besides, you know the old saying "beauty is in the eye of the beholder"... And even if both were the ugliest people on the planet, ugly people have needs too--even wayward ugly people!
And ugliness is not just on the outside. My husband's OW is a friggin' KNOCKOUT...(all his old girlfriends and his ex wife were...) but she's pretty darn XUGLY on the inside since she obviously had no regard for the institution of marriage (mine or hers...)
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Actually, BH, I have read here on this forum that people usually "affair down".
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Im sorry to hear that your WS choose such a person, i guess it doesent matter what the OP looks like in the end it still hurts the same. It just makes more sense that A are with people that seem extraordinarily beautiful not ordinary or unattractive people.
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Married: 2000
DD1November 22 2008 - DD2 October 2014
PA Duration September 08 - November 08
Second discovery- 6 online affairs 4 sexual one emotional. October 2014.kids: DS 17, DS 14, DS 12, DS 10 . Baby after divorce DS 18months
Divorced
Was misled into thinking we were in recovery for 6 years.
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And ugliness is not just on the outside. My husband's OW is a friggin' KNOCKOUT...(all his old girlfriends and his ex wife were...) but she's pretty darn XUGLY on the inside since she obviously had no regard for the institution of marriage (mine or hers...) edit
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I watch, and am as a sparrow alone upon the house top.
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And ugliness is not just on the outside. My husband's OW is a friggin' KNOCKOUT...(all his old girlfriends and his ex wife were...) but she's pretty darn FUGLY on the inside since she obviously had no regard for the institution of marriage (mine or hers...) edit My xw OM was 14 years older than me. Made half what I do. Had E.D. and all kinds of health problems. I had the looks, the money, worked out, stamina, an MBA, the father of our kids. xxxxx And she doesn't wonder a second, much less ask why I went plan D and chose to "date" for 10 months before trying to go back and work on our M. I know I wasn't owed it(Entitlement), but it sure felt like it as the time..DUDE
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wow DUDE that must have been rough atleast when WS chooses better person (looks/jobs wise i mean) than BS then the BS has something high to aim for but what do you do when OW is just all out worse in every sense like in your case??
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WS 38
Married: 2000
DD1November 22 2008 - DD2 October 2014
PA Duration September 08 - November 08
Second discovery- 6 online affairs 4 sexual one emotional. October 2014.kids: DS 17, DS 14, DS 12, DS 10 . Baby after divorce DS 18months
Divorced
Was misled into thinking we were in recovery for 6 years.
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And ugliness is not just on the outside. My husband's OW is a friggin' KNOCKOUT...(all his old girlfriends and his ex wife were...) but she's pretty darn xUGLY on the inside since she obviously had no regard for the institution of marriage (mine or hers...) My xw OM was 14 years older than me. Made half what I do. Had E.D. and all kinds of health problems. I had the looks, the money, worked out, stamina, an MBA, the father of our kids. xxxxx And she doesn't wonder a second, much less ask why I went plan D and chose to "date" for 10 months before trying to go back and work on our M. I know I wasn't owed it(Entitlement), but it sure felt like it as the time..DUDE Yup, my exWW OM is 15 years older, drinks like a fish, smokes like a chimney, hasn't had a job in several years, owes 10K in back child support, has no teeth, and does not have a penny to his name. Me - I consider myself decent looking, good job, MBA, father of the kids. I would say she affaired down. She looks rediculous when ever she brings him to court.
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Me BH 49 WXW 50
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DD 2005
D Day 1 7/28/08
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What REALLY got XW angry is OM dumped her when I exposed to his wifey.
Short fat bald OM dumped HER! Not HER! He was supposed to support her when she nuked me.
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I had never seen pics of OW until I found her FB page. I had seen pictures of her older sister in H's highschool yearbook. And I know his type. I guess you could line us all up and stamp us out of a mold on the assembly line. But IMO, OW was extremely well preserved. I don't look my age and I only weigh about 7lbs more than I did when I got married, but things have shifted around a bit, KWIM? Looking at OW's pics, well..she's either got a GREAT plastic surgeon or good genes.
Her H makes a good living; she doesn't work and you can tell she spends a lot of $$$ on her hair, nails, face, etc. I think she'd be in for a rude awakening if she had to actually live life with H who can't keep a job; won't step up to the plate to figure out how to support his family.
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one word for that one Pariah -- KARMA ---
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Married: 2000
DD1November 22 2008 - DD2 October 2014
PA Duration September 08 - November 08
Second discovery- 6 online affairs 4 sexual one emotional. October 2014.kids: DS 17, DS 14, DS 12, DS 10 . Baby after divorce DS 18months
Divorced
Was misled into thinking we were in recovery for 6 years.
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Did you notice that they spent almost 6 hours sending those dumb emails back & forth? What a waste of company time.
Me BS
DDay 12/2/03
Plan B 9/17/04
I filed for divorce 6/15/05
Divorce Final 3/13/06
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That is one perfect exposure gaslightened i think even their milkman will know about the affair after that correspondance mistake. Saves BS alot of work lol
BW 36(Me)
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Married: 2000
DD1November 22 2008 - DD2 October 2014
PA Duration September 08 - November 08
Second discovery- 6 online affairs 4 sexual one emotional. October 2014.kids: DS 17, DS 14, DS 12, DS 10 . Baby after divorce DS 18months
Divorced
Was misled into thinking we were in recovery for 6 years.
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That is one perfect exposure gaslightened i think even their milkman will know about the affair after that correspondance mistake. Saves BS alot of work lol It is perfect exposure but I know how it hurts for the spouses. I feel really, really sad for the spouses. WS motto is deny, deny, deny; none of that for them this time.
Me BS
DDay 12/2/03
Plan B 9/17/04
I filed for divorce 6/15/05
Divorce Final 3/13/06
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I feel for the BS too but almost envy the fact that they wont have to go through the exposing, dealing with angry WS after exposing and as far as the deny goes isnt it better to shortcut that one??
BW 36(Me)
WS 38
Married: 2000
DD1November 22 2008 - DD2 October 2014
PA Duration September 08 - November 08
Second discovery- 6 online affairs 4 sexual one emotional. October 2014.kids: DS 17, DS 14, DS 12, DS 10 . Baby after divorce DS 18months
Divorced
Was misled into thinking we were in recovery for 6 years.
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A's are NEVER about looks, never.
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Agreed Jen, its about how the OP makes the WS feel
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