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I am overly sensitive right now because of recent events in my situation. So perhaps this question is out of line. But why do waywards and former waywards refer to an A as a mistake? A mistake occurs when you go to the store and buy the wrong kind of bread or when you are doing a math problem incorrectly. An A is nothing like a mistake. It is a decision that comes from total disregard of purported loeved ones and total self-centeredness.
Hmmmmm, guess I am back in the BS fog.
AM Because everyone on here knows they are aliens(falling down drunks) and have lost complete control of their actions. ITS A MISTAKE! ITS A SIN!! Its that simple..DUDE
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Why do you call Princess Meggy **edit**....its not an accident or mistake....I've seen it more than once.
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7. Waywards are dirtbags. Go to jail(step ZERO), do not collect $200. It will take him ten years to heal, at least. It is that bad. It is scarred him that much. Calling someone a wayward has become his greatest insult he can throw at someone. Its fairly obvious to me. I actually feel for Pariah because it takes some serious sheet to get someone that SCORCHED/PISSED. Serious sheet I dont want to even imagine...DUDE He got hosed, not just by the infidelity. It eats at me, too, that my WW, as a SAHM, got the kids and $2500 a month tax free as support. No way does she spend it all on the kids. See, it is not just the cheating. It is the way you get smacked in the divorce. Who said crime does not pay?
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Dude, his ex had him SHOT and they left him bleeding in the road.
Serious sheet? That doesn't even BEGIN to cover it. Well, then do we dismiss him as "unrecoverable"? Is he gone forever? Do I just ignore his pissed off attitude. IDK I'm asking how to respond to him? I was a wayward so I'm sure I'm on his "hit list". DUDE Does it matter? Truly? Does it really matter to you if you are on his hit list? Is there some sort of timeline in which you think he or me or any of us should be recovered by and therefore if we are not, we're deemed this "unrecoverable" thingy? Cos I gotta say, you know there are SOME things that hurt so bad that every time you think on it it HURTS and it won't EVER stop hurting. I can think of 2 instances in my life that hurt that bad and only ONE of was the infidelity...the other involves death. Time made it better for both, but they won't ever go away....they are a part of me as much as my eye color or my love of salt and vinegar almonds. I think it's mightily high handed for anyone to PRESUME to decide which scars of LIFE will make one "unrecoverable" or not. The most basic thing that ALL humans must grasp is that LIFE - the mere act of existance - involves change. Once a person grasps that and comes to grips with the fact that no matter if he or she cheated, you stayed or left, or went to college or not or had kids or didn't... No matter what you do, your life will change. That is the ONLY gimmie in the world. People who say "it's all changed now," are correct. What they fail in is finishing that sentence..."it's all changed now, but it wasn't going to stay the same, so what's our next step now?"
I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?O'hana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten. My Story Recovered!
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A while ago I was posting and everyones answer was get a attourney and go to court. Like I said then that does nt always work out.Pariah is a good example of that. In my case things are starting to improve on some levels and maybe a little light showing on others.
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I am overly sensitive right now because of recent events in my situation. So perhaps this question is out of line. But why do waywards and former waywards refer to an A as a mistake? A mistake occurs when you go to the store and buy the wrong kind of bread or when you are doing a math problem incorrectly. An A is nothing like a mistake. It is a decision that comes from total disregard of purported loeved ones and total self-centeredness.
Hmmmmm, guess I am back in the BS fog.
AM Wow, I'm just loving my dictionary today apparently. Here is the definition of the word mistake: NOUN: An error or fault resulting from defective judgment, deficient knowledge, or carelessness. I think an A would qualify as defective judgment, to say the least. Definitely a lot of carelessness involved too. Carelessness of the feelings of the BS, the well-being of the COM's and the family unit. Failure to realize the consequences of one's actions. The word mistake is not meant to lessen the wrongness or severity of the act. It simply denotes a decision that is made and later regretted. That's how I see it, at least.
Me: BS/FWW: 48
BS/WH: 50
DS: 30, 27, 25
DD: 28
OC: 10
BH and I are raising my OC together.
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>defective judgment
Skrew defective judgement...the Wookie lost his ever-lovin' mind.
(snort)
He was full blown nucking futz, and yes, that is my professional diagnosis.
(the doctor is IN)
I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?O'hana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten. My Story Recovered!
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No worries Lexxxy. I've already addressed this.
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Widowed 11/10/12 after 35 years of marriage
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“In a sense now, I am homeless. For the home, the place of refuge, solitude, love-where my husband lived-no longer exists.” Joyce Carolyn Oates, A Widow's Story
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I'll never forget the time I asked Ted Bundy to babysit the kids. He had recovered, IMO, from his thoughtlessness.
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Let's get back to marriage building, folks. This thread is locked.
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