Hi. My husband has been using this site for a while and has recommended that I join. I will probably be quiet and see what it's all about for a while, but I hope my situation will be of benefit to some out there.

My husband(Gloveoil)had an affair almost exactly one year ago. We have been working through our issues since January and have grown closer than I would've ever imagined possible. I think that's what I want people to know more than anything: recovery is possible, but only through commitment to hard work and through the grace of God. God sustained me through the hurt and allowed me to see my part in this mess. God brought in godly friends and counselors to listen, to cry with, and to help lead us to where we are now.

Is it perfect? no.
Will it ever be? no, we will live with this forever, but like all memories, it will fade with time so that we are only left with the lessons we learned from it. And those have been great.

Thanks, and may God richly bless you all on this journey.

Welcome, I am positive your journey can help many on MB....and if you need us we are always here to listen....

Welcome, TWC.

Are you and GloveOil working MB together?

I've read your husbnd's posts. Thye are good. He owns his stuff.
Only thing I take issue with you on is tha assertion that only those who rely on God can recover. I am somewhat religous, so I have no axe to grind here. But, I do not think Harley would write off folks that are atheists or humanists or whatever.

TWC,

Welcome to MB. I hope you do a lot of reading of Harley's articles. I also hope that if you have questions or the feeling you can help someone, please step up and post.

JL

Thanks, everyone for the welcome. I do realize that everyone's journey is different and I do know that non-christians can recover just as well as christians. I can only relate from my experience that it was my faith that got me through those initial horrible weeks.

Gloveoil and I did counseling and worked through the surviving an affair book, all of which were crucial to our understanding of why this happened and how to prevent it in the future. I am just so much more aware of my husband than I used to be.

JL: I will definitely post if I think I can help someone or if someone can help me.

Welcome, TWC. I've read your FWHs posts and have been very impressed by him. (Now don't get all full of yourself, GloveOil ) Your sitch is a mirror of mine and my FWH - the time frame is the same, so we're close in our healing journey. GloveOil reminds me a lot of my H, and I hope to get him on here soon as well. They seem to be poster children for R, thank God!
It's been a real ride, hasn't it. But the rewards are starting to come - our M is stronger every day, our devotion to each other continues to grow. It's like we have gone/are going through a trial by fire, but we are aware of each other as we never were before.
I look forward to your posts - welcome!

Welcome to the forum.

Your H has been involved in my BW and my own threads. His advise is second to none. He to a large degree is our driving force. I had an A around the same time as Gloveoil, the difference is he worked with you and on himself to repair and better your M. I did nothing and just expected my W to pick herself up and heal by herself, hoping the A would just go away. Im very ashamed of this behaviour and finding this forum has really helped me to see the light.

Im trying more than ever before and I refuse to believe its too little to late, its going to be tough, but its going to work.

Sorry im not trying to hijack your thread, in a round about way im just expressing my gratitude to you and your FWH. Your seem like a wonderful couple (an inspiration)and I hope your advice and side of your journey can help suffers on here too.

p.s. if you see Gloveoil please send him my way - I need to pick his brain lol