Thought I would complile and try to maintain regularly a list of resources that the board would have access to when needed for other addictions coupled with an A.
Article-Dr. Harley on alcoholic spouse-
"One of the first things I do when couples see me for counseling is to evaluate them for drug and alcohol addiction. If I feel that either is addicted at the time, I refer the addicted spouse to a treatment program. The Love Buster, drug or alcohol addiction, will prevent them from resolving their marital conflicts because it controls them. It must be eliminated before marital therapy has any hope of being successful.
My job as a marriage counselor begins after successful treatment and sobriety. If the addicted spouse refuses treatment, then I direct the unaddicted spouse to Alanon or some other support group for spouses of alcoholics. Sometimes, I encourage an intervention.
That's what I learned to do after discovering that an alcoholic is so much in love with alcohol, that while in the state of addiction, there is no way for them to consider their spouse's feelings whenever they make decisions, a necessary condition for a great marriage. Alcohol always comes first, even when it is at the spouse's expense".
Entire article
http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi5048a_qa.html Two addictions coupled at once can be overwhelming.
Since I am a recovered alcoholic most of these will pertain to alcoholism.
Please feel free to add others to the list as needed.
Extremely good book
Can This Book Help You?
If you live with or love someone who drinks or drugs too much, this book can help you. This book offers you a program that has been proven to help people whose lives are affected by a problem drinker, a drug user, or someone who does both. If you feel stuck in a hopeless, substance-ruled life, this book can help you. If you have ever called, or wanted to call, a crisis line, clinic, or hospital and said, "Help, my husband is drinking himself to death" or "Help, my kid stays out all night getting high, and I'm scared to death," this book can help. You will also find help here if alcohol or drugs are destroying your marriage or scaring your children. Whether you are the wife, husband, lover, parent, son, daughter, or friend of an alcoholic or drug user, this book offers you the tools both to help you help your loved one find the path to sobriety and to
improve your own life.
http://search.barnesandnoble.com/bo...815&box=978-1-59285-081-5&pos=-1 This book helps to map out the drinking behavior and the way we react to it in OUR own lives. By changing our reaction to the drinker/drugger we map out for ourselves positive action with rewards for sobriety to the d/d.
The end result is it leaves us off the hook from nagging, pleading and threatening. Good book to use if the d/d would be offended or blow off the idea of AA, NA, or treatment. Even goes into detail how to get your loved one to treatment.
Always up to date.
Latest in new drugs, alcohol/drug fads with teens. A lot of other links to other addictions.
http://alcoholism.about.com/ General information, books and meeting finder. AAhttp://www.aa.org/?Media=PlayFlash General information, books, meeting finder. Al-Anon/Alateenhttp://www.al-anon.alateen.org/AA/Al-Anon/Family Teens/ACOA/Child Abuse Survivors/NA
Links to all of these-message boards-on-line meetingshttp://www.12stepforums.net/Co-Dependant No More-How to stop controlling others and to start caring for yourselfhttp://search.barnesandnoble.com/bo...o-dependent+no+more&box=co-dependent no more&pos=-1&SZE=10
Bouderies-When to say yes, how to say no to take control of your lifehttp://search.barnesandnoble.com/bo...rol+of+your+life&box=bounderies-When to say yes and when to say to take control of your life&pos=-1&SZE=10
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