Fredinva could use your help on his thread. His situation's similar to yours sans the kids and relations.

Could you pop over and bestow your take on his situation at least at the moment?

One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger

I will not spend my life this way.