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Well b4 you do separate or divorce, how about telling her what is really in your heart and mind. Plan A is just that, a plan. Its not the only plan. Sometimes the plain truth is a great plan too. She won't respect you (and trust me, she isn't respecting you) if you don't respect yourself. Have you outed her to everyone, including the kids? You have given her so much. She needs to be able to imagine you not there. Do you even think that she has considered how tough life will be without you?
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Catperson,
I see your point. I have told her how the waffling feels and her response is that she is afraid that after seperation she will come to believe she made a huge mistake in letting me go, and that I won't take her back then because I will have moved on.
Ouchthathurt,
I have not told the kids. She has admitted to me she is very scared about being on her own, like I said I am getting to the point where I am almost ready to kick her out of the house.
Me = BS, 41
Her = WW,40
Married seven years
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Catperson,
I see your point. I have told her how the waffling feels and her response is that she is afraid that after seperation she will come to believe she made a huge mistake in letting me go, and that I won't take her back then because I will have moved on.
Ouchthathurt,
I have not told the kids. She has admitted to me she is very scared about being on her own, like I said I am getting to the point where I am almost ready to kick her out of the house. Have you told her that yet? Can you send her to her parents? Of course they must know what she has done. And yes the kids need to know.
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